How I build my confidence.

To finally be able to walk in a room and feel just as important as any body else there and to feel beautiful in my body no matter who’s around didn’t happen over night. I had many trials and errors, there were times I hated myself and there were times I was so insecure that I sabotaged a few of my past relationships with people. 

Confidence is art to me; believing in my beauty and in my talents are all the things that I need to feel secure. Knowing that there is no one else like me out there is enough to make me snap out of my insecurities. Throughout my whole life I used to always make myself small so that other people don’t feel outshined  or so that my quirks don’t come out too much! I am funny! My laugh is weird but I love it. Between the year 2020-2022 I was sooo insecure because my skin was sooo bad but last year I started to really feel so confident no one can make me hide it now.  I am not perfect and I will never be! there are times I compared myself to other girls especially if I have a crush on a guy and I see him with someone else I used to compare myself to her and I started to believe I wasn’t pretty enough, not assertive enough or too shy! But now I look at her and I am certain that her and I are nothing alike and I feel bad for him because it sucks for him that he didn’t get the chance to witness this beautiful soul! I am in love with myself now. I don’t compare myself to anyone else anymore I just focus on all of my beautiful qualities and I feel powerful and I trust that whoever let me go wasn’t the one for me.

Here’s what I did 

• I changed my whole closet: buying clothes that fits your body type and make sure to accentuate the things you’re more confident about. Don’t be afraid to be bold! Have fun with your style and practice your walk. Take pictures, have fun with yourself
• Have a skincare routine: I used to have really bad acne, one thing that helped me is to have a routine and to keep it simple! I have very sensitive skin but I research products that would work best for me and I drink a lot of water trust me they are not lying when they say “drink water if you want good skin”
• My hands: I used to always feel insecure about them! One thing my dad gave me besides my pink lips, my cute nose are my hands! I have a skin care routine separate for them. I take care of them because they are very useful to me! I do everything with them! So I love them even more when I realize all the things they do for me! They are sooo cute to me now. I take my time to cherish them. 
• Take care of your body: anything that you’re insecure take time to take care of it, work to see the beauty in them. 
• Cut off people: there are some people that will make you feel bad about yourself. You don’t need those people, cut them off. If someone is yelling at you don’t entertain it, walk off or hang up the phone. Don’t participate in anything that bring out your bad side, always be assertive but never angry or arrogant. Be confident  to know your strength but humble enough to know you don’t always have to flex.
• Fall in love with yourself first: the more you love yourself the less you will accept disrespect or bad treatment from others.