On Sunday I spoke about the woman who was sexually abused by her husband as well as her 2 and 4 years old daughters. I have some opinions…

First let me just say what she is going through is horrible! And I am so sad that a woman can go through this with her kids. She suffered a lot of horrible things under the hands of this monster but could she have prevented this? There’s no doubt that she cannot change what happened, sadly what’s done is done but diving back into her old videos about how she met her monstrous husband triggered me. She said in video that she met her husband on a dating site after her sister encouraged her to start dating after being with her first husband whom she had 2 or 3 children with. When she met her now husband she was watching a woman name sheraseven who encouraged women to cheat on a man who’s not taking care of them this woman said and I quote “ if you’re paying 50%of the bills I am telling you to cheat on that man and find you a man who can take care of you 100%!” With a woman like that in her ears she set out to find herself a rich man so that she can become a “trophy wife” she said she went on the first date with her husband he immediately asked her to be his girlfriend (red flag number 1 because what do you mean?! You don’t even know her! What is your motive asking her to be exclusive to you?) then on the first week of meeting that man, she allowed him to meet her kids and hang out with them (red flag number 2 what kind of sick person let à complete stranger around their kids? That’s how kids get molested and get coerced into doing bad things) then they stopped talking for a while (red flag number 3 that should’ve tell her all she needed to know because a man who was all about you at first then stopped is a sign that he’s not the one, he doesn’t know what he wants or his intentions aren’t pure) she then started seeing someone else and she even moved in with him with all her kids from her previous marriage (red flag number 4 like girl slow down ugh) while she was with that man, she broke up with him because he wasn’t taking care of her as much as she would’ve liked. A day after breaking up with that man, her now husband contacted her. She told him everything (red flag number 5, keep a little mystery! You don’t owe anyone you just met any explanation you just giving them all the ways they can get you or worse mistreat you and he did) he said and I quote “ those are my boys I want to take care of all of you” that sounded good to her ears so then she said “ I need a place to stay” (red flag number 6 that’s begging! She could’ve went back home to her family or I don’t know get a job! ) then he said you’re not coming to live with me as my girlfriend but as my wife and immediately they start talking about marriage (red flag number 7 MARRIAGE! Girl you just met him) she went out and bought herself a ring ! Ugh! Girl desperate much? Anyway (red flag number 8 buying yourself a ring after you just broke up with your ex to go be with another man while having 3 children without a place to stay is insane ! Like girl get your priorities straight) then a week later they were married and we know what happened next…

My thoughts…

She spent  barely one year alone after her divorce  which I suppose it was right around the time she started watching sheraseven because she claimed that woman changed her life! Sure she did but for the worse. Then she just started dating again, (to find a rich man I suppose) which is fine but why bring your date to meet the kids. As a single mother my mom never brought any man around me, even if she loved someone else who wasn’t my father I never knew because she was willing to sacrifice her dating life to raise me ( not all mothers have to do this but I want you to see how sacred it is to allow the person your are dating to be around your child) she didn’t know this man enough! A week cannot tell you everything you need to know about someone. She let him talked her into marrying him without the foundation of a relationship! She wanted to be taken care of so bad that she did not once stop to think “uhm this is moving too fast I need to get to know this man more before bringing my kids into the mix” she was a selfish mother for letting this man into the lives of her children without making sure he was a good man first. I feel bad for her because she didn’t have much experience in dating  at all, she had her first child at 17 and got married young with her first husband, then she jumped right into another marriage with this monster. 

She kept glamorizing herself as a trophy wife while she was being abused and not once did she talked about the cons of having a rich man taking care of you. Having a man with lots of money and power taking care of you is demeaning ! You have no voice, you do whatever he tells you to do because he is the breadwinner God forbid he’s also arrogant and a narcissist! Those men sleep around with multiple women and you might think well at least I got the ring and he’s taking care of me then boom you get diagnosed with HIV or worse aids ! Because men like that do not care about your health, they sleep with anyone because they have money they think the world is at their feet. She forgot to say all of this before she discovered what her husband was doing to her kids. 

Being a man’s trophy wife is not something to glamorize! What does a trophy do! Nothing! They just stand there and look pretty. She was teaching women how to get the ring meanwhile she begged for hers… sigh. She has a lot of growing up to do because she is a mother! She needs to do a much better job at protecting her babies. Broadcasting her kids trauma on YouTube was a bad idea because she told the whole world about her kids trauma now everybody knows! What if her kids didn’t want to share this when they’re older !? Well too late now more than 2 millions people already saw the video and guess what she did after!? She created a go fund me! Ugh I’m beginning to think that this might be a scheme! But why would she get on camera and say all this to ruin that man’s life if it wasn’t true!? Ugh social media is a weird place to be. But watching women like sheraseven who encourage women to get money from men and to only date rich men are truly miserable! Imagine dating someone solely for money! What a miserable life! You don’t even love that man the slightest ! The sight of him doesn’t even send shivers down your spine! 

I hope this lady get her life  together and makes better decision for the sake of her kids. I hope she’s not looking for the next rich man to take care of her and her 4 children.