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Relationship talk.

I was scrolling through tiktok earlier today and I stumbled on a video of a girl talking about what she expects in a man, and as she was describing her ideal man I couldn't help but think if she's ever going to find a man as such? I mean anything is possible right ? but that's pretty rare for a man to be willing to put themselves last for a girl. I would never expect that from a man, I do want you to treat me with respect but I don't want you to worship me in any kind of way. I want my man to take care of himself and do self-care just like I am going to take care of myself because that's how the relationship get toxic when the other person is neglecting their needs and not taking care of themself they will lash out and their unhealed trauma will come up to the surface; like baby I don't need none of that please tell me when your needs aren't being met so we can try something else out, please go to therapy, take time to heal, talk to people that can help, let's be friends first. People make relationship sounds like a chore or like your significant other is supposed to be your savior or something. I don't need no man to come in save me, I can save myself. 

I am hoping to get the same thing that I am giving because I can't be selfish and just expect my partner to give me the world if I am not giving him anything in return. Relationship shouldn't feel like a prison, in my 20's I want to have fun, be free, fall in love, experience new things and grow. I don't want to be put in a cage, I want my partner to be happy while he's with me, I want to be his peace, I want to learn his love language so that I can show him just how much I love him, I want to be there for him just like I know he will be there for me, I want to protect him because I know he will protect me, I want to trust him just like he will trust me. This is a partnership ! I will do for you the same things you will do for me, I will grow with you, I will teach you new things and you will teach me new things, we will travel and create new memories, we will love just like there's no tomorrow... That's how I want my love story to be like :)