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2021-05-29T21:26:14+02:00

want to be happy? try these 5 things.

Publié par Gaelle.R 29 Mai 2021 à 09:26 PM

A disclaimer I do not promise that you will always be happy; no one can be happy all the time because there are things far greater than us that we cannot control, things like death. Sadly, death is one of our biggest enemy and whenever it sets foot somewhere it can only bring pain, tears, and great grief.

These small steps although they can appear easy are the hardest things that anyone can manage to do at all times because we have a lot of emotions, anger, greed, grudges but those steps can help get rid of all of that.

1. find your energy source. That can be keeping a spiritually based life for instance personally if I don't pray, meditate and consult the bible my life would be in total chaos. I admit that not everyone is spiritual and some people haven't got the chance to know God personally, I will always advise that you learn to know God for yourself if you haven't because he is our only hope and the only savior of the human race. One other thing that can be a great energy source is exercising it is scientifically proven that exercising can make someone truly happy if they are persistent and passionate about it. Exercising is good for your body and overall health so that can be something to consider if you want to be happier. Other things can be reading, writing, traveling, hanging out with friends and family, spending time alone because there are people who need to be alone to recharge their social battery, and depriving them of that would be crucial.

2. Move on. I know that it is easier said than done but those 2 words hold a lot more power than we think, you need to move on from those who caused you pain because your happiness is worth way more. you need to move on because holding to the grudge will only make you angry, miserable and it's like bringing the knife back in the wound again. You have to let the wound heal because if you don't at this point you are hurting yourself. Once you move on I can assure you that you will feel a lot happier and free from holding to this heavy baggage that was never yours to carry. Anyone who chooses to hurt you has a problem with themselves and you're just collateral damage.

3. watch out for yourself. Be careful with this step because one can become a narcissist and only care for themselves. You always need to make sure that you're not hurting anyone for the sake of your own happiness. You need to protect your heart from people trying to break it, staying away from danger because if you don't watch out for yourself who will? you need to make sure that you are not putting yourself in danger in any way possible, it could be from smoking cigarettes which is bad for your lungs, not sleeping enough which can be lethal, not eating enough, and not taking care of yourself. Take care of yourself and you should be a lot happier.

4. Take care of your responsibilities. Make sure you are not in debt, pay your bills and take care of your family. If you don't pay your bills you will be in a lot of debt, risk of being homeless, risk of going to jail, being bankrupt and those things can only make you miserable; take care of your responsibilities to live a less stressful and happier life.

5. seek help. This step includes going to the Doctor to make sure you're healthy or to know if you have a problem because knowing that you have a problem early can help save your life. seeking help from a psychologist if you're not in the right place mentally and there is no shame in that. Oftentimes people think that going to see a therapist means that someone has to be crazy or suicidal it is far from that it is to make sure you get the help that you need mentally because if you're sick mentally your whole body will follow and you will be a walking ticking time bomb. Seek help for a happier life.

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2021-05-26T20:27:01+02:00

To the" late bloomers"

Publié par Gaelle.R 26 Mai 2021 à 08:27 PM

You're probably thinking nothing is happening in your life and that you are late at everything but by just living you are doing something incredible.

you're probably thinking about how everyone else is getting in relationships, getting married, having kids while you've never been in a relationship, still single after that last break up and can't find anyone who will give you the love that you deserve. Honestly, you are never late in love and you are never too early either; love happens when it supposed to happen do not force a relationship when you know it's not right just because you're afraid to end up alone. You are never alone even when you feel like you are, God is always watching over you and if you believe in him he will truly guide you to the right path. Stop watching other people's life focus on yours because by focusing on you a lot of things will change and your view on things will change. I know that this society make us believe that you have to be in a relationship to feel complete when the truth is you don't ! because if you don't feel complete before you meet that special someone you will mess up everything by just expecting the other person to make you feel complete; never forget this "you cannot pour from an empty cup." Focus on being a good person and on being everything that you're expecting in a mate.

You're probably thinking about how everyone is graduating or getting their dream jobs. Truth is it's never too late to learn something new, if you're not even 30 you have time to even go back to school to become a Doctor. Stop thinking it's too late, it is not all you have to do is work hard and always believe that you can be the best.

One reminder : "never compare your life to anyone else's because you have your own story and it can never be written twice."

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2021-05-26T17:59:19+02:00

stressed? do these 10 things.

Publié par Gaelle.R 26 Mai 2021 à 05:59 PM

1. Take a walk. It does not have to be a long walk it can literally be for 10 minutes while you walk try not to think about the reason why you're walking, empty your mind completely as if it's just you and your feet hitting the ground going somewhere. Try to listen to relaxing music like jazz or classical music, don't listen to any rap or rock music because that can make you walk faster and get angry. Try to smile at strangers (I know it's weird but just do it) try to act like you're enjoying your walk and soon enough you will!

2. Breathe. Don't just breathe in and out or do a force breathing exercise, go somewhere private and close your eyes imagine being at your favorite place could be at the beach, at the park, in a nice house, or at a tropical Island...just imagine being there and slowly breathe, when you're breathing try to take a deep breath hold it for a second and exhale.

3. If you are somewhere that you cannot afford to leave or close your eyes. Just sit and relax your muscles, stop tapping your feet on the ground, relax your face, relax your eye muscles and drop your shoulders. When we are stressed we tend to look tense. Just relax all your muscles and breathe slowly.

4. watch something funny. This truly helps it will make you laugh which a good medicine when you are stressed and it will take your mind off of what is bothering you.

5. Listen to an audiobook. It can be quite boring at first because you are tense and your mind is racing, to be honest, this is the last thing that I would do. Perhaps after you do step 2 which is to breathe and imagine being at a beautiful place you will feel nice and relax enough to sit through a chapter from an audiobook. One audiobook that I find very captivating is "we're going to need more wine" by Gabriel Union, I've listened to the whole book and I felt like I was there. Her voice is so soothing and captivating which is exactly what you need.

6. Take a nap. Yes, a nap is sometimes the only thing that you need because when you are tired you are more prone to stress and a few hours of sleep might be rewarding and beneficial for your well-being.

7. talk it out. Call a friend or talk to someone you trust, talk about the situation don't leave out any detail because when you talk it out it will not only help you relieve stress but you can also find a solution. It doesn't hurt to talk to someone who is trustworthy it's probably the best thing to do when you are feeling overwhelming.

8. write. Writing your emotions and feelings down will not only help you understand the emotions that you are feeling but it will also help solve your problems as well if you can come up with a few strategies and a game plan.

9. Go for a drive. This one is really the best especially in the summer, roll your windows down put your favorite song on and sing at the top of your lungs even if you sound bad who cares you are just blowing off some steam let it all out even if you stop at a light singing while a stranger is looking at you like you're crazy, truth is we are all crazy.

10. Dance. Yes let loose and laugh it off even if you don't know how to dance just move your body like no one else is watching but first make sure that no one else is watching !

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2021-05-23T19:44:48+02:00

Publié depuis Eklablog

Publié par Gaelle.R 23 Mai 2021 à 07:44 PM

hey guys,

How is everyone doing on this fine Sunday? it's hot here in New England that is the perfect weather to start going to the beach, hiking, having picnics... I can't think of anything else. Not that I would do any of that today, someone just told me that I am a cat person and it is true LOL I love my alone times, I like to sit and watch the world through my window; I feel safe that way but I know that one day I must step out of my comfort zone but unfortunately that day is not today. I want you all to live life to the fullest and do things that you are afraid of to conquer your fears; I have yet to follow that motto.

Someone asked me: why don't you speak much?

The first thing I think about when someone asks me that is "I am a writer, not a talker, I write the script so you can speak." Lol but no that's my own personal joke; Truth is I can talk a lot it's either: I just don't want to, don't feel comfortable, my friends aren't here (Do I have any friends?), don't feel like what I have to say will make an impact. I don't know why I am quiet in a group setting most of the time, I have yet to figure this out; in a small group I tend to feel less pressure to speak and I can say what I think easily. I do have an opinion on everything because I am always thinking, always doing research if I don't speak sometimes it's because I don't want to open another argument as I do not like confrontation.

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2021-05-20T21:31:44+02:00

Publié depuis Eklablog

Publié par Gaelle.R 20 Mai 2021 à 09:31 PM

"I had a dream about you,

You were my other half not a long lost memory.

I could feel more in that dream than I ever felt in my entire life."

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2021-05-20T17:41:39+02:00

crazy cat

Publié par Gaelle.R 20 Mai 2021 à 05:41 PM

Hey guys,

I have a crazy kitten! Archie gets really agitated at night and early in the morning two of the worse times that I am trying to either fall asleep or trying to stay asleep. I love him to the moon and back but his behavior is too much even for me, I am usually calm and I do not care about the chaos that often surrounds me but I do not play about my sleep; I need my 8 hours of sleep in order to perform properly otherwise I will crash and snap at everyone.

I am trying to find something that will calm him down when he's going crazy so far I've heard catnip is good for cats as a stress reliever and anxiety but I really don't want to give my cat drugs ! I wouldn't take drugs and my cat won't either. There was a point where I was like it's only a plant I'll just get it for him on amazon, by then I was completely tired of his repeated psychotic behavior ! he did not get that from me; anyways I need to find something quick soon before he goes for his surgery. The second thing I found that can help is a cat diffuser I would just plug it on the wall it's like those febreze wall plug but instead of filling it with air freshener I will put some cat calming solution; I think this sounds better but will it help? Honestly I didn't know how time consuming it is to have a cat sure they are independent but they love attention and you have to schedule play time session with them otherwise they will go crazy and break stuff. I could also get a calming collar but it will not work Archie hates collars he will just flip and try everything on earth to remove that thing off his neck. He is like a baby ! I spoil him too much which is why he is driving me up a wall simply because I haven't fed him his favorite meal which I cannot find at the store at the moment ! He is such a brat lol but cute. But if you ask me I don't regret getting Archie I would do it all over again he is truly my baby.

I think I found something that might help ! calming wipes on amazon I will give them a try so whenever he is going crazy I will just pick him and wipe his face with it actually no I read somewhere that you shouldn't apply anything on your cat unless it is vet medication so I will make him smell it? or I will wipe his carrier and put him in there for 5 minutes, that sounds better to me.

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2021-05-19T17:50:44+02:00

Publié depuis Eklablog

Publié par Gaelle.R 19 Mai 2021 à 05:50 PM

Hey,

The last article make me out to look like a narcissist, in the contrary as an INFJ I care about everyone even the friends that I am no longer friends with; If I see them anywhere I will greet them and talk to them. I do not cut people out of my life for no absolute reason believe me before I make that decision I was either deeply hurt, protecting me and the other person from an ugly falling out or the friendship just died on its own. I care about people and I am far from being a narcissist, I felt the need to make that clear just in case some people get the wrong idea.

I am a Christian and I strive to be empathetic, understanding, loving, kind, happy and positive as possible. I hope everyone is having a wonderful day.

...

PS. Underneath that mask I am super nice.

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2021-05-18T19:57:26+02:00

is it a friend?

Publié par Gaelle.R 18 Mai 2021 à 07:57 PM

This morning as I was eating my breakfast while getting ready to leave the house, I came across a video from a fellow INFJ as I am an INFJ as well which automatically makes me an introvert. INFJ stands for introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging which means that we are very empathetic, caring, soft-spoken, rare, intuitive and have strong morals. The video talked about what a true friend is, but before we get into it let me take you way back in the beginning. I relate so much with the person who made the video so I am going to talk put it in my own perspective.

As an INFJ I tend to attract a fair amount of people(not a lot because I admit I am not always welcoming but trust me I mean well) and make them feel at ease because of my inviting exterior(unless I am not hungry), calm demeanor which can make some of the people that I attract feel like they are my friend. I hate to hurt people's feeling when I tell them you are not a friend even if we do go out to eat, do stuff together or talk long hours...I will never tell someone who I know doesn't deserve to be treated badly that they aren't my friend, to me that's just being an hypocrite but before we get into that. I did make the mistake of letting some people get too close while I had no intention of being their friend however I didn't do it intentionally to rectify my action I sort of let time destroy what they think was a "friendship" not to be mean which I am not but I believe that we are entitled to pick our friends and I will not accept a forced friendship or something I did not want. A real friend is someone who is clapping for your success, happy for you when you succeed and want the best for you; now from your circle do you see anyone who's really happy for your success? helping you succeed? or are they judging? afraid to compliment you because they think you're going to feel superior? disappearing when you are doing well?. You can tell when someone is truly happy for you and not all of that fake stuff. I never had many friends I have had maybe 3 real friends in my whole life but I have had many acquaintances.

As an INFJ we tend to just let unnecessary friendships, toxic relationships just slowly die, we never stick around to see the end result because we can see how it's going to play out so we make the decision to end it for you, which is why they associate this act as a door slammed yes if you hurt an INFJ they will just slam the door in your face and forget your mere existence all together...

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2021-05-17T22:16:52+02:00