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Toxic Relationship.

part 2 

I can't begin to comprehend why would someone be attracted 

to someone that causes them so much pain and heartbreak. It's like a lot of people are getting even more attracted to pain.

For example, some people hate being in a relationship with someone who expresses their love freely, 

who does all the right things because they would rather be with someone who makes them fight to be noticed or to even receive a little bit of love they would have to beg for it? 

Why is this generation so keen on being in love with the wrong person?

why is pain becoming acceptable? why is it that we fall in love deeper with someone who doesn't even pay us any attention? 

actually, I am taking myself out of that equation because I am not attracted to that. I feel it when someone doesn't love me and all I want to do is run away from this hostile environment.

I want to be loved and treated with utmost care because I know I can give those things so freely to the person I love the most. 

My theory is that more and more of us are growing up in households that don't show us what genuine love is supposed to look like, 

 we think that we have to fight to get love from someone which is wrong! 

You don't have to fight for someone's love who genuinely loves you. 

I love this verse in the bible that says that love is not pain. love is not jealous, it doesn't take account of the bad things

All of that idea that you have to chase a man down for him to love you will only leave you heartbroken and drained. 

As A woman there's nothing that will make me chase a man, I am the prize and I believe in my worth. I don't have to beg or chase any man, 

I think more women should be focusing more on themselves than on relationships with a man. I assure you

by focusing on yourself and by loving yourself you will know when you are being mistreated and you will have the strength in you to walk away because you know that you deserve better.

A relationship should never define you; sure at times I feel like I want to find love and date someone but I'll be fine if it doesn't happen.

perhaps being in a relationship is not in store for me right now but there are many other things that I can do like:

I have many places that I want to travel to, and while I am alone I can save up enough money to start traveling.

I can learn a new language and I've already started I am currently learning Italian.

I can write the novel I've always wanted to write, I already started.

I can throw myself into serving God and having a deeper relationship with him, I've already started doing that.

I could learn a new instrument; I want to learn how to play piano and guitar :) 

I could get more friends.

I could read more books and learn about historical figures because I love all of that stuff.

I could collect more meaningful art. Because I love art.

There are so many things that I can do without a man and still be happy and fulfilled that I don't feel defined by any man whatsoever.

I am never too attached to anyone, the same way that I came in I can head out just as quick if not faster.

My wellbeing will always be my priority because I am my greatest possession.