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How to move on from somebody and fully detach?

It is not an easy task to teach your brain to let go of someone because all it wants to do is to hold on to that thing that is making you feel good, not knowing that not everything that makes you feel good is actually good for you. 

To fully detach from someone you have to admit to yourself that you are attached to them first and you have to ask yourself why am I attach to this person? And what is this person giving me that I cannot give to myself? Because whatever that person made you feel that made you attached to them is the thing that you think you aren’t capable to give yourself. If that person made you feel loved and valued then you probably struggle with self love because if you are able to fully love yourself than you wouldn’t struggle so much to let them go. 

There was this one guy I could not let go and to this day I am still struggling to let him go, I had to admit to myself that I am in fact attach to him because I would never admit that to myself. I struggled to express my love for other people, I don’t quite know how to make someone believe that I love them with my words…. I grew up not having someone telling me that they love me. Yes my mom always tells me that she loves me but it’s always awkward lol. That person made me feel liberated and happy, I told him that he made me happy actually but to let him go was hard. I always felt that I needed someone to make me happy or to fulfill that void of emptiness in my life, it wasn’t until I sat down with myself and fully learn ways to being happy on my own that I could finally let him go. It was hard but I am almost fully on the other side now.

You can move on and you will move on but it might take some time. That’s okay if one day you start crying out of nowhere that is the process of moving on. BE gentle with yourself and find that thing that you are missing so that you can give it to yourself because it all starts with you.