Publié depuis Eklablog

The downside of therapy. 

As you all know, I am very keen on going to therapy, but I have my reasons for that, but the same way I push myself and others to go to therapy I also have a few reasons why therapy may not be necessary. The only reason why I think it’s necessary for me to go to therapy is to talk to someone and to be brutally honest with at least one person, to say exactly how I feel instead of concealing everything in. To be honest if I had someone that I trusted who was near me I wouldn’t need to go to therapy because a therapist cannot fix me. I need to work on myself … 

My problem with some therapist is that they never want you to feel like anything is your fault even if it is because they don’t want to hurt your feelings! they want you to come back, one way for you to keep coming back is when you feel like your feelings are validated and you know that your therapist is on your side. How are you helping me if you are not honest with me? Agreeing with everything I say is not helping me to solve my problems! true I pay for my session but at least tell me I messed up! tell me the reasons why family hates me is because I am in fact the problem and tell me a few things that I can improve on. The only time a therapist should be on your side is when you are open up about your past traumas especially if you were a child, then that really wasn't your fault if you couldn't do anything to save yourself. But if you are abusive to your wife there is no way your therapist should just give you a pat on the back and give you a prescription to relax!

The purpose of therapy is to open up about everything you want to share and for them to give you some sort of advice, but if I am telling you my problem and you're just listening without trying to come up with ways for me to cope than I can just call a friend and vent! I know a therapist cannot fix me but at least give me some sort of advice.