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What NOT to do after a break up.

• Watch sad movies or sad post on social media. Actually I would suggest doing a social media cleanse, unfollow the person on all platforms. Don’t post sad quotes, the relationship is over but your life is not. Believe me you will move on and you will fall in love with someone else again if not harder. Don’t stalk their page on social media if you struggle with that then simply block them while you’re moving on. You can unblock them later if you’d like but you don’t have to. 
• Don’t propose to stay friends. If someone breaks up you or break your heart we can all agree there’s no way you can be friends with that person again if you truly loved them, it’s like hurting yourself each time you talk to them. You will always wonder if they moved on, do they still love you? Are they seeing someone else? All of which is none of your business. Just focus on you! That’s your priority. Don’t try to contact them either, leave them alone. Cry in your privacy do not seek sympathy from them the relationship ended for a reason and always remember what that reason is and accept it, even if it’s hard at first but I promise with time it’ll be okay.
• Don’t contact their friends to see what they are up to. So you don’t think their friends will tell them you’re trying to know what’s going on with them!? It’s drama and you’re giving the person power over you. Just leave them alone and like I said before FOCUS ON YOU!
• Do not write them letters or send them things in the mail. Ugh embarrassing, just leave it alone. You’re begging and nothing is more unattractive than someone begging for love. Remember that they had you and they let you go if that’s not insulting enough for you then I don’t know what is. They’re basically telling you they can find better somewhere else so let them go. 
• Do not cry for more than a month. Dwelling in your pain will not help the moving on process. I personally give myself 3 days or 1 week at most. I am not a very emotional person and I can shut myself off the world easily, but maybe because I’m traumatized by love so nothing phase me anymore but I am well aware that there are people who fall in love deeply and letting go of someone they love feels like the end of the world well I’m here to tell you it’s not! You can cry but at some point you will need to stop and keep going with your life. You haven’t meet all the people you are going to meet yet.
• Do not keep their pictures on your phone or in your house. Just throw it all out, do not hold on to memories that will only hurt you even more. Just let it go. 
• Do not stalk them. I don’t know what’s more embarrassing sending someone who broke up with you a love letter or stalking them. I am not judging lol but when you moved on even yourself will admit that what you did was stupid! We live in a day and age where you can reach anyone from anywhere in the world in seconds, you don’t think if that person wanted you they would have found a way to get in contact with you?. If the person you still love and you’re still fighting to let go of doesn’t contact you it simply means they don’t want you as much you want them or not at all.