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This is all the things that i've done and will be doing. The first thing about glowing up is to change your mindset all together which led me to believe that I am in fact a hot girl and I am not just a quiet girl but instead I am so much more than that. In my book nobody is quiet, I have never been a quiet girl I was just around the wrong people and the wrong environment but little by little I find that I am breaking out of my shell (I will write an article about that too :)
How to glow up.
- First thing you need to do, you need to start getting to know yourself. Take time journaling and getting to the root of your issues and to figure out why you act the way you act. Take time figuring out what you like for example find out what your love language is, find out if you are an introvert, extrovert or an ambivert; get to know your personality time. Basically this first step is to start working from within because you will not glow on the outside if you are rotting on the inside. Take time to work on your inner self first for example:
- go to therapy to heal your inner trauma and your inner child, open up about your issues and start applying different strategies to cope.
- get a relationship with God. I don't know if you believe in God but I do and I am in fact a christian. I believe that if you want to succeed in life you will have to get in touch with your creator for guidance because he knows you better than anyone else. Talk to God everyday like your best friend, tell him everything even the messed up things.
- Move in silence: whatever you're doing in life avoid telling anyone about it before you accomplish it because people can discourage you from following your dreams or make you believe that you can do something better because simply they do not have the same vision as you; that's okay because you and I will never have the same vision but that doesn't mean what you believe in is not important. Always protect your goals and dreams because they are the best things you will have in life because they are your purpose, without your goals you would just live life with nothing to work on or look forward to.
- second thing, take care of your appearance. If you want to glow up you have to take care of your overall appearance meaning skin, hair, nails and your style.
- Have a skincare routine that works best for you, if you have sensitive skin avoid using harsh products and always wash your face before you go to bed at night and after you take off your makeup.
- If you have natural hair and you are a black girl find out what your hair texture is and use products that will benefit that particular hair texture. for example my hair type is 4A and not long ago I thought it was 4c, I have normal hair porosity but I used to have high porosity hair when it was damaged... but uhm do research on that with hair gurus on youtube but one thing for sure always keep your hair moisturize and deep conditioned your hair weekly or bi-weekly and always use protective style to grow your hair and to give it breaks. One thing I notice people look at me more when I have my natural hair out because it is a beautiful sight to see and a brave thing to walk in with your afro and not care what anyone says. You will always look best with your natural hair so always take care of it and nurture it because that is your most precious possession especially if you are a girl. I also feel more confident and a badass with my natural hair out.
- also take care of excess hair, shave your legs, get your eyebrows down and shave your moustache, even girls have mustaches which is soooo annoying like why??/
- Get your nails done. You don't always have to have acrylic nails but just make sure your nails are clean and presentable. I love putting nail polish because I simply hate bare nails lol so just do what you want to do but make sure your nails are always clean.
- switch up your style. Change your closet from time to time, get new clothes, try new fashion trends and reinvent yourself with your clothes. Your appearance is the first thing people see so always take care of it.
- always smells good. Get perfume, scented soap and always shower before you go out even when you're home too. Brush your teeth at least 2 times a day (morning and at night).
- keep your environment clean. You don't have to have a fancy car or a fancy house but always make sure that they are clean because when your space is clean you think better and you feel better.
- get a hobby. for example learn how to play the piano, ice skating, belly dancing or anything you always wanted to do.
- drink lots of water. When you drink water you look less puffy and your skin will thank you.
- always wear sunscreen even if you're a black girl.
- Always put yourself first: You don't have to be mean about it also always remember to be kind to everyone but you know your limits and what you can handle so always keep that in mind. For example take time for yourself, take time to sleep and do self care when you feel drain, you don't have to show up to things you don't want to, go to the gym and exercise, be kind to yourself, set up boundaries for every friendship and relationship.
- be where you are needed, never chase or beg because honey you are a hot girl and we just don't do that.