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2025-06-07T18:47:58+02:00

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Tough 

 

After losing my dad I can say Saturdays are the hardest because after field service I would go hang out with him or run errands with him. Now I don’t have that option, it hurts. I wish I could hear him say my name on last time. I wish I could hear him say “ I love you” one last time. I miss you daddy. I didn’t even get the chance to introduce you to my boyfriend. 

 

I am so sorry I wasn’t the best daughter when you needed me the most. Today is Saturday and I am crying uncontrollably. I miss you so much daddy. You were so funny, you loved me so much. I wish I showed you how much you meant to me. I love you forever. 

 

On saturdays I don’t want to do anything. It’s been like this for a year now. I can’t bring myself to leave the house unless I am going to the gym. It’s like there’s a huge hole inside my heart and I mostly feel it on saturdays. It was our day. 

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2025-06-07T06:40:51+02:00

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My advice to any girlies who’s crying herself to sleep because of a boy. 
 

I was you once, oh yes I cried my heart out for that boy. I watched him made a fool out of me, you know what I did? Nothing I simply let it hurt. I sat in silence with my pain in a dark room. Didn’t speak to anyone, didn’t even reach out to him to let him know how much he broke me. I was 13 years old when that happened, I hit rock bottom. I vowed to never loved anyone like that again and I never did. My ego however always wished I could be chosen, I yearned for the possibility of being loved by someone but I knew I wasn’t going to be able to love anyone the same way again… not until I’ve healed. I am an empath, a heartbreak can last years for me to process. That boy got married, got divorce and came back for me but I had already moved on. The pain that was left in my heart wasn’t the one he caused but it was the one I knew I would be running away from. I’ve cried in fear that I’ll end up alone because no one is patient enough to give me the proper time to love them. Love? What is it? I don’t know. 
 

my advice to any girl who’s crying because of a boy. Is to let him go, yes let him go. Don’t run after him. Don’t ask him why he doesn’t want to stay. Don’t try to hold him back. You were made for someone, wait for your turn. Someone who can make you cry and not notice is not someone you should want. Your future husband will never treat you like that. Remember you are somebody’s dream girl. 

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2025-06-06T16:09:53+02:00

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My fitness goal is : to look like a pilates princess in the front and a muscle mommy from the back :)

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2025-06-06T14:51:30+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R

funny Tips about working out.

  • track your food like you track that man: Yes get an app that track your protein intake not so you can be anxious about eating too much but just to make sure that you are eating enough protein for the day. If it's 12 pm and you still haven't ate anything then you're cooked my dude EAT SOMETHING NOW!!! you need food to grow your muscles. It's not easy to eat enough protein you can hit your calories goal and eat too much fatty foods way before you eat your protein goal.
  • you want a fat juicy ass?: well keep your squats low, your stress low, and your protein high that's it.
  • you want a nice muscular back to carry that ass: train your back twice a week, keep the weight high (I just started doing that) not only will working out your back fix your posture but it will give you an hourglass shape.
  • every time your form is bad when you're lifting put on good form by Nicki Minaj. ( clean version of course lol)
  • Snacks are a no go! summer is here babe we want a flat stomach! stop eating big back meals and run to the kitchen to cook instead.
  • meal prep before you prep an alcohol drink. Alcohol is giving you a dad's belly. STOP drinking every night.

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2025-06-05T15:32:20+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R

 

About my guide to dating.

 

Dating is not a game to me and if the man I am talking to is playing games with me, I cut him off. I don’t have time to track how long I should text a guy back because he took 2 hours so now I have to take 3 hours. I reply when I see the message or when I find out how to respond to that text. I have made a ton of mistakes that you don’t have to make if you don’t waste time in the beginning stages. If in the beginning stages you’re not treating me like a queen then what about after we’ve been married for 5 years? I know what I want and I would rather stay alone until I find it. I am not dating anyone until I find what I am looking for. Some men do date until they meet their dream girl! Imagine this you’re dating a guy thinking he will be my husband meanwhile he’s still looking for his wife ugh disgusting. I don’t entertain anyone who’s not sure about me. If I am talking to a man just know he is putting time to get to know me. I know what to do now, because at one point I had no boundaries, I always had self respect but I used to lack common sense. I know when I am being played or taking advantage of, I always smile because I know they don’t think I know! Sometimes I let a few things slide because I’m bored and I want to have fun but as soon as I get back to being serious I cut it off. 

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2025-06-04T18:58:45+02:00

interest

Publié par Gaelle.R

It can be tricky when I start talking to a guy because half of the time it's about football or the gym... we can talk for hours about those topics and then the line gets crossed. In his mind he's thinking oh I am trying to impress him with sports and gym but I genuinely really love those things. I watch a football game every week end, when I am not watching a match I am watching compilations goals of Mbappe, Neymar dribbles or compilations of Haaland goals or Ronaldinho... A man told me that I am half a man and half a woman lol. He said you really don't care! you detach quickly! you date to have fun sometimes, you watch a lot of soccer and you lift weights like crazy!!! I was like awww thank you but he was like but how are you also girly?! It's a cute mix. 

I hate when men think I do it for them like I really don't care that much... I only do what I like doing, I never try to impress anyone. It was never that serious.

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2025-06-04T14:41:33+02:00

my guide in dating.

Publié par Gaelle.R

Date with purpose to avoid wasting your time. Before you invest in someone read this.

Before women would strive to be chosen but the rules have changed. A man choosing me doesn't have to mean I will chose him to be my boyfriend, it is not that easy if it was I would've of been on my 4 th relationships this year lol. Simply being tall and handsome is not enough for me anymore. Are you emotionally intelligent? kind? respectful? well mannered? humble? private? exclusive? are you following every girl on instagram? are you lustful? can you stimulate my mind? please me in any way? are you faithful? spiritual? responsible? financially stable?...

My rules:

  • if a guy DM or text me " hey beautiful" as your first interaction with me I am not replying. In my mind you text that to every girl. Be original, I got a lot of guys saying that to me. Tell me something different, that doesn't empress me.
  • on the first date what was he talking to me about? was he trying to get to know me? were the topic fun and deep enough? or was he nonchalant? or trying to flirt me the whole time? if he flirts with me the whole time I see him as a lustful man and respectfully I don't need a man for only one night soooo next. Flirt with me here and there but the whole time!!!? and you never once ask me about my interest my hobbies or what I like? yeah it's a no for me dwag
  • the first 48 hours after the date is crucial. If you don't text I don't text, you don't call I don't call. If you don't reach out to me or ask me for the next date I will cut you off, next. He should see me as an investment, if he is not investing his time and attention on me, then he doesn't value me enough. No time to waste. Doesn't matter how much fun we had if you don't make any effort I am not entertaining anything. 
  • The boredom I feel when a guy is being intentional is good. often times we associate a guy who set up a date, has great communication skills and pursue us as being boring but that's good! we think it's boring because we are used to toxic men. If I have to ask you why you haven't ask me out? respectfully you don't deserve me. The excitement you feel when you have to fight for someone's love is not good. Love is not earn, it's given freely. All of those butterflies you think you're getting when you're waiting for a text back is your body signaling to you that this person is not good for you, being addicted to low efforts is trauma bounding. Just because you had to perform to get what you want before doesn't mean you also have to do it for love. Let it flow, don't force it. If he's worth it trust me he will make the effort.
  • the importance of kindness: don't romanticized an normalize toxic relationships. Define what kindness means to you, how you want and expect to be treated, make rules. There will be times you misunderstand each other or have disagreements but you should never scream at each other, curse at each other, hang up the phone on each other's face, give each other the silent treatment, don't insult or looks down at each other, or use past traumas against them in an argument. You should always remember that you love and care for each other therefore respect is a must. Kindness to me means planning dates, checking in throughout the day, gift giving, hugs and kisses, words of affirmation.... 
  • conversation topics especially in the first week-month: don't talk too much about the past or the future (focus on the now). He shouldn't tell you how difficult his past was (not in depth)  his traumas, his exes... if you're an empath like me you will want to save him because you feel bad and confuse that feeling with love. If he talks about his future plans too much and projecting them on you then he might be too clingy or love bombing' you ( he might be trying to create a bound quickly just so you can depend on him emotionally to then leave you and pick the girl he really wants, avoid getting attached to anyone right when you meet them. remember this might not work so don't let your heat be the collateral damage). We've known each other for 1 week and you're telling me i'm your wife? uhm what the helly??! you don't even know me dude. He shouldn't be desperate or rushing to get into a relationship with you. The conversations should be centered around how much of a good match we are to each other 
  • mixed signals: We are not meant for everyone and that is fine. Not everyone can see your light, not everyone is worthy of you. Don't force connection. Stop showing him how to treat you, stop asking him to act right, stop teaching him how to be emotionally intelligent. You shouldn't fight for his attention. You need to be so confident and so obsessed with yourself that you know all of the worth and value you bring, how great you are and what a fabulous girlfriend you would make. 
  • Do not spill your secrets: In the beginning dating stage never tell him what your boundaries and standards are, what your type is or how you were treated in the past. Else you are giving him a cheat sheet on how to play you, because you tell him you accepted a low vibe, bare minimum behavior in the past. If you only say your past relationships didn't work because you weren't meant for each other, he won't know what kind of treatment you are used to and he will work to earn and impress you, because that is the kind of woman you are now. Sit back and observe, be in your feminine energy, detached, knowing that what's meant for you will find you, don't worry. Stop discrediting yourself for what happened in the past. Everyone makes mistakes. You learn from them and are now wiser. You are more prepared for the new dating experience thanks to what went wrong in the past. You don't have to get it right from the first time, but never settle. Past experiences teach you what you want and do not want, what you are willing to tolerate and what not. You are in a better position to make important decisions like marriage. Trust yourself and your intuition
  • Attachment styles are the key some examples of  different attachment styles: secure (best one), avoidant (you're uncomfortable with intimacy, closeness and commitment, maybe you're hyper-independent, you like to date, but can't stick to anyone), anxious (you're clingy, need a lot of reassurance, you're confused about how others feel about you) and disorganized (mix of anxious and avoidant, you fear commitment, but you also want closeness, you need reassurance, but you also don't care)You need to transform your attachment style into a secure one. Anxious and avoidant people attract each other, because they reinforce the other person's insecure need. The avoidant will think he should stay independent and not get clingy like the anxious person. The anxious will keep believing that he needs to keep asking for reassurance because the avoidant keeps withdrawing from them. The insecure attachment style is formed by childhood trauma.
  • He should be testing you too. He should be obsessed with you, see your value, want to date you and romance you. He should be eager to see you and want to put the effort into knowing you, BUT he should be independent and secure enough to know that he is not about to jump into a relationship and a commitment with you straight away because he needs to get to know  you first. He should also want to understand whether you're going to align with his life. He should want to be a boyfriend, not just get a girlfriend. He is ready and excited for the responsibilities that come with being a boyfriend, because he knows that in order to earn a girlfriend he has to put in the work, provide for you, support you. Don't be attracted to the idea of him or his potential, assess if he is really prepared. He should be happy to see you smile because of him, to take you out, to buy you flowers and provide for you, to make your life easier.
  • . Feminine Energy : Don't live in your masculine energy, don't try to have control over everything, including him to make all of the plans, don't ask yourself how you could be more attractive to him, don't compare yourself to other girls or even his ex, don't wonder if he should even have female friends. Exist in your feminine energy, sit back and live your soft life. If he doesn't give it to you, it's fine, you can give it to you yourself. You shouldn't have any desire to control, to teach him how to be a boyfriend. You have high standards for the people that come into your life, you are confident and living a fulfilled and relaxing life. When he is approaching you wanting to be in a relationship, you should be aware that your life is amazing the way you created it and that you don't need him, but you can want him if he is able to match your life and then elevate it. You are not just dating a person, you are dating a lifestyle  You should assess him, not fall for him blindly. 
  • He is not there to save you.  Heal your wounds. Don't get tricked by people who can put a temporary band aid over your broken heart and mistake it for unconditional love and an everlasting connection when really it is just familiarity. Don't let the common trauma you share blind you.
  •  They need to be judged how they act:  How is he with his family? How does he show up for his friends? What kind of employee is he? What is his relationship to his passion, work, hobbies, discipline, exercise, nutrition? Try to understand clearly how he is thinking and what his mentality is. What are his toxic traits, his weaknesses, his strengths. Everyone is imperfect, but it's not about finding somebody to date who’s perfect rather someone with flaws that are compatible to your flaws, that you can deal with and not get triggered.
  •  What does your dream life look like? Romance is just one part of your life, not the whole story. One person can't be everything for you. You always get the love you deserve when you stop looking. In order to attract the healthy, high value relationship and person that you want you also need to match their energy.

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2025-06-03T18:58:49+02:00

habits for the month of june

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  • work out 6 days a week (I normally do 5 days but I want to add 1 more day)
  • read the bible before bed (I am currently reading the book of Job I aspire to be a good person like him and for Jehovah to look down on me and to be proud)
  • journal every night
  • read 10 pgs in my self help/ fiction book daily
  • drink 64 oz of water daily
  • track every meal
  • sleep before 10pm
  • stay off social media post no stories (I haven't been able to stay off my Instagram or tiktok but baby steps)
  • make a comment weekly at the meetings :)
  • hang out with people who loves me and stay away from toxic people.

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2025-06-03T13:54:22+02:00

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Giving someone all you have only to see them share it with someone else can break you. That’s why I always tell my friends to never invest in a man that is just your boyfriend, he has no obligations to you. He can break up with you whenever he wants and he has the right to do that. If you’re married to him in the eyes of the law there are repercussions and monetary benefits to discuss. Building a man up is never something I look forward to doing. It’s emasculating for a man to let a woman take care of him, he will resent you at some point and guess what? He will leave you and find someone else he can take care of himself. Man love a damsel in distress, he loves knowing he saved you or that he had a huge part in your coming up story. The purpose of a man is to lead, to take charge, to take care of things if he can’t do that with you because somehow you do everything then eventually he will leave so that he can fulfill his purpose somewhere else. 

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