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Why can’t I get a boyfriend?

I used to ask myself that question not too long ago and I used to stressed myself over what I was doing wrong. I would even make a list of all the past mistakes that I have made  in the past just so I wouldn’t repeat them again. As I get older and now that I am 25 years old, I realize that I was asking myself the wrong question all along. 

Wanting  to get a significant other is totally normal because God created all of us in pairs so it is right for you to feel the need of a companion. I have had many boy best friend or close friends and some of them I’ve always wanted to date but as a woman I realize that I was too eager, too desperate to make a guy fall for me. After they fall, what would be next? Do I even see myself with this guy in a marriage for 10 years? Do I even love him or am I really looking for validation? 

If you want to date someone ask yourself those questions and really answer them truthfully and please do not hold back! Be honest with yourself. I don’t want to be in a relationship with a man that I am too in love with anymore because I realize when you care too much and when you love too much in the end you’re the one who’s going to get hurt and the person who cares less just end up not caring about how you feel at all. 

There is more to life than a relationship, I would be totally okay if I die without ever been in a relationship as long as I know that I did everything I ever wanted. 

You could be in a relationship with someone and they don’t even know you or worse they don’t even love you like that. Nowadays people date just for the sake of being with someone. 

There are people who will truly want you for who you are, and they will love you for YOU not for your body, your beauty or anything superficial like that. 

Being desperate will not get you in a relationship that will feed your soul because you will be the one doing the most, caring the most and you will end up feeling drained and broken. Take your time, fall in love with yourself. Take time to get to know yourself, because you have to love  yourself first before you should allow anyone to love you. 

Reasons why you should love yourself first 

• If you don’t love yourself you will give yourself to the wrong person and you will not what love is supposed to feel like.
• You will become too available, too caring, and you will get attached to someone who might end up leaving you. 
• You will look to them for validation when that should be coming from you and no one else. 

Whoever you are please take care of yourself. Be around people who truly love and care about you because you deserve to be loved in the utmost way.