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Why are we do love things that are hard to get?

I believe we want something that is out of our reach or out of our league because when we get it we actually feel an ego boost, we feel validated when we finally get something we’ve always wanted. This could be anything by the way, it can be a job or even our relationships with other people.

we may want a job because we think the pay is so good that it will solve all of my life problems and maybe it will but most of the time we might not be satisfied with it. You may not get along with your new coworkers and you may even miss your old job which is why I am not so eager to switch jobs anymore if I find a place that pays me enough for me to survive then that is all I need. I am happy at my job, I love all the friends I made there so why change it? Money doesn’t buy happiness but people can make you happy.

From my own experience, it never works well when I have to try hard to get something. I always end up disappointed, unhappy and even feeling like I’ve wasted my time. All of us we have someone in our life that we admired wether that person is a family member or a friend but do we love that person because we put them on a pedestal or because that person gave us a reason to love them?

There was a guy I was soooo obsessed with and I believe that I was in love with him; he was playing so hard to get at first and at some point he finally let me in and we dated for less than a week. I was soooo miserable in that relationship that I don’t count that as a relationship; when we broke up it was a mutual thing. That experience showed me that if someone is hard to get then they’re not the one for me. Even with friends, if I am trying harder than you are and you don’t even care then we don’t have to be friends. It’s okay. We often believe if someone is hard to get then that person must be exceptional and he doesn’t want to date me that easily because he has so many good qualities or the sex must be good ! Lol I mean… we all thought about it. But then you get in a relationship with them and it’s awful! They are emotionally unavailable, unstable, they have a short fuse and they are not what you expected! 

The most beautiful friendships that I have in my life currently I didn’t fight for them. It all just came naturally and I have some amazing friends I just don’t always take advantage of that! But I know who to call and I know who I can turn to if I am having a bad day. I didn’t have to try hard when I met them! It all just worked out naturally and it was mutual.