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2025-05-27T15:35:30+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 27 Mai 2025 à 03:35 PM

Questions I get because I wear my hair 24/7:

Don’t you get tired of doing your hair everyday?

No I don’t because I don’t do my hair everyday. I do my hair once a week! I wash my hair on Sundays twist them and put it away until I need to wear my hair out again. So yes I wake up and go daily unless I have somewhere special to go to my hair will be in twist.

Don’t you get bored of your hair?

Believe it or not I don’t get bored at all! I used to hate seeing my hair out. I used to love wigs, braids or any hair extensions but now I can’t stand them. I love my hair just the way it is and putting extensions in my hair irritates my scalp and gives me headaches.

Do you do your hair one way?

There’s a lot of hairstyles I can do with my hair but I get lazy at times and do the same thing over and over again lol but as long as I am not damaging my hair then that’s all that matters to me. I do switch it up when I feel like it.

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2025-05-27T14:55:03+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 27 Mai 2025 à 02:55 PM

The month of may is trying to take me out!

I am stressed and it’s one problem after another. I am normally not as open but I can’t handle it right now. One thing that helps me is Jehovah because I have no strength.

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2025-05-26T18:13:08+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 26 Mai 2025 à 06:13 PM

Self care

Everyone’s self care is different and I never judge or picture everyone doing the same things I do to take care of myself. For some people eating a good meal, cooking or laying in the bed doing nothing is a form of self care.

For me self care is going to the gym, getting my nails done, cooking, taking a nice shower, skin care routine, cleaning my space, sleeping, eating a healthy meal, watching a movie after work, drinking water, talking to the people I love, hanging out with my cats. I need all of those things to survive because they all make me happy! I am a very chill girl. I don’t need a lot to be happy, just the small things make me love life.

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2025-05-26T01:46:16+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 26 Mai 2025 à 01:46 AM

A little reminder that When you get married this person has a lot of power over you, more than you realize. That person has the power to tell the doctor how to proceed if you can’t. Let that sink in. Do you trust your partner to make serious life altering decisions on your behalf?

Honestly If you cannot trust that person to be your emergency contact, then simple don’t marry them!

You need someone you have complete trust in. Not just someone who can fold you like a beach chair, someone with a beautiful jawline, 6’4, beautiful face, text back quick but someone who will call the funeral home when your parents passed away and you are too emotional to Do it. You need someone who will hold you in your dark times, someone who will be there when you’re crying at 3 am while the baby is screaming in the background, someone who still finds you hot in an adult diaper after you have just finished given birth. Someone who can spend 11 hours at the hospital with you because you’re sick or your parents are sick. Someone who will carry you and support you through hardships like a miscarriage or infertility. Love is so superficial nowadays even if someone of us hate to admit it but physical attributes seems to matter more than actual love! Chemistry and sexual tension are not love!

Love is commitment, a constant need to make someone’s life better, a deep desire to be around someone because their presence brings you peace. When your heart is beating fast my dear you better run! Love should not give you anxiety it should make you feel whole without the constant need to perform to keep someone interested.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment and it should never be taken lightly. You need someone you trust to lead you, not a guy with the biggest muscles but the guy with the biggest heart who’s kind and prioritized you. Until I find all of this I am more than happy to stay single with my 2 beautiful cats.

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2025-05-25T03:15:42+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 25 Mai 2025 à 03:15 AM

If any of you see me with a man just know he worked day and night to get me to stay with him. To get me to talk to you daily! To update you! To stay by your side as a man is hard work if I don’t already love you or even see a future with you. Men was never my priority! I am literally reading the book “how to date men when you hate men” I have been through so much that dating terrifies me. For that reason if a man don’t initiate any form of contact with me they will never hear from me. He doesn’t call, I don’t call either; he doesn’t set up a date then he won’t see; he doesn’t have a plan then I’m not coming. I am very self sufficient! I could be a maneater if I wanted to but I don’t have the heart to make men suffer. I am a child of God I move intentionally, therefore if I’m not interested in you I will not lead you on. I am a very busy girl so when I make time for a man it’s something! I don’t even let men touch me!

At times I would give my friends advice about dating men and they would say well you’ve never dated so you don’t know, I always say” the coach don’t play” lol I’m the best person to give a girl advise on dating men because my opinion is not biased and my advice come from a place of love not hurt or past traumas.

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2025-05-24T14:27:35+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 24 Mai 2025 à 02:27 PM

Luteal phase again 😫

my energy is depleted and I’m not even halfway through the cycle… I’m exhausted and I am eating a lot. I have so much to do today and all I want is to stay in bed.

we’ll see if I can lift heavy today

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2025-05-23T15:56:52+02:00

things that make me happy

Publié par Gaelle.R 23 Mai 2025 à 03:56 PM

Let's create a list of things that make us happy, I'll go first :)

cats, it doesn't even have to be my cats! I can see a random cats on the street and I am smiling and chasing it lol. Or online I love looking at cats, I think God created them to make me happy lol because he knew I would have a hard time on earth.
flowers, I love receiving them and I love giving them. They're sooo beautiful and they make feel loved.
books. I have a ton of books in my apartment some I haven't read but they bring me comfort. I love reading and that makes me happy.
hugs from the right people. At times I act strong but I actually want to cry when I get a hug during those times I feel a lot better.
music. I cannot spend a day without music, I play it constantly...
handwritten letters. I grew up writing letters for the people I love and that makes me happy

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2025-05-22T20:55:04+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 22 Mai 2025 à 08:55 PM

*for a dear friend I almost lost by suicide...

I am here for you always,

I will be your 2am call if needed.

You can disturb my peace anytime,

your notifications will always come through.

I love you, and I am praying for you.

The most beautiful flowers need the most care.

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2025-05-22T15:56:59+02:00

life saving tips that I eventually learned.

Publié par Gaelle.R 22 Mai 2025 à 03:56 PM

Trigger warning: will discuss mental health issues.

I don't want to sound morbid but I will get right to the point, my whole life or ever since I can remember I've always struggled with depression and anxiety. Even when I wasn't even a teenager because I thought that started when I was 14 because that was the first depressive episode I can vividly remember. That summer when I was 14 years old I spent the whole summer in my room reading the bible, I would not go out unless for meetings and field service, I would watch tv, cry everyday and I barely ate anything and my mom was really scared. I recently read one of my journal entries when I was 11 years old and I cried reading it because I was soooo depressed! I was just a kid why did I have to feel this way?! here's what I said (it's in French I didn't speak English yet just highlight that sentence and translate it on your browser) " Je ne sais pas ce qui m'arrive mais je pleure tout le temps, j'essaie de ne pas inquiéter maman mais je pense qu'elle sait que quelque choses ne va pas. Elle me demande tout le temps si j'ai quelque choses a lui dire mais je ne sais meme pas ce qui m'arrive. je me sens si seule et parfois j'ai envie de mourir." Based on that entry I can say I was somewhat suicidal but I don't think I wanted to execute anything mainly because I love my mother and I knew she lost a child already, I knew she would not survive my death (she kept me alive). I was born with some type of chemical imbalance in my brain, I cannot describe it to you but in the past I could be happy and all of a sudden I hate living. I haven't felt this way since 2022... I accepted that I wasn't well mentally and I went to see my Doctor. We have to stop the stigma in the black community when it comes to mental health because a lot of us are losing the battle with mental health most of us need help.

Besides my treatment and therapy... I can say one thing that sealed the deal for me is exercising consistently. When you work out endorphins which are happy hormones get released in your brain to make you feel good and feel less stressed. Working out truly saved my life as well, I don't exercise to only look good I do it for my mental health. A good cardio session or weight lifting session is sometimes all that I need to feel good. Now for my anxiety essentially I made that one up, because that's what anxiety is you make it up in your mind that you're not in the right place, that people are judging you or watching you but who cares? I am not anxious at all that has gone away. I can walk in any room and feel as if I am supposed to be there. I don't care what people has to say about me... I am carefree, happy and living my life after a long battle with mental health issues I won.

Before when I would go out in huge crowds I would panic and I would run home lol, I still don't like big crowds especially when I don't need to be there but if I have a reason to be there then I am fine. I can go to a party and have a good time without alcohol, actually I have a much better time when I am sober because my head tend to spin when I drink and dance at the same time. I need to stay sober to dance and interact with others because I want to be 100% present but before I needed a stimulant to let loose now I don't need that I just simply need good music and good vibes. I am not a great dancer but I love having fun :) who cares if people are staring and judging I will dance until my feet hurts lol. Before I used to have anxiety about dancing in public, I hated it... I would only dance at home. Life is meant to lived, to enjoy and to create beautiful memories. I will not let my mental health struggles hold me back anymore.

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2025-05-21T13:21:50+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 21 Mai 2025 à 01:21 PM

I don’t want to hear this:

Don’t tell me oh I felt bad for the guy so I gave him a chance! listen, men don’t do this. They like what they like and if you’re not his type he won’t even look your way. You need to stop giving people you are not attracted to a chance. Me personally I couldn’t do it! If when I look at you I don’t want to (…) then I can’t be with you. I need to feel a spark, a connection and our values need to be aligned as well. Men don’t feel bad for women, they care about themselves but us women we tend to settle because we’re "getting old". Me personally I am not ever in a rush to get married, I don’t even have a timeline. If marriage happens for me then it happens if it doesn’t then it’s not the end of the world ( but I want a kid) plus there’s the new world I can always get married then.

So many people are in a rush to get married only to get cheated on, mistreated and become miserable. As I always say I can find love at 50 years old the heart never gets old. I am in no rush to find anything because when you’re looking for something you will find it but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it will make you happy in the long run. For now I want to deepen my relationship with Jehovah, find a balance between fitness, my job and spiritual activities because they are all over the place ( those three things besides my family are my priority) love was never something I look for. I believe true love finds you when you least expect it and my baby is out there somewhere praying for me while I am squatting 120lb at the gym lol. He won’t know what hit him! I am so unpredictable yet grounded ! Like I always say I am a walking contradiction when you think you know what I am about to do then boom I do something else. I can’t wait to be in love ;)

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