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2024-09-24T21:29:13+02:00
Update.
My legs are sooo sore today! I didn't have leg day on Friday, so I had it on Saturday. I modify my work out, it is still the same because I try not to change it entirely. I have the same routine I just up the weight gradually!!! I am doing way less cardio now So I can keep my muscles. I don't want to lose them.
I can barely sit! today is rest day but I am going back tomorrow afternoon! plus, I have to wash my hair today and watch that Real madrid game when I get home from work ;)
2024-09-23T05:53:17+02:00
The Menendez brothers.
I don’t normally talk about true crime cases here often but I always watch criminal cases and documentaries especially the ones from the 80s. One of them stuck out to me and it is the case of the Menendez brothers. With the new documentary that came out on Netflix called “the monsters” which is supposed to be about them, but I can’t help but feel disgusted that someone created a storyline like that about something so tragic!
They boys' names are Lyle and Erik, in 1989 they both killed their parents. Let me walk you through what conspired them to do such a thing. At the time of the murder, they must’ve been 18 and 21? I think but throughout their lives they were molested by their dad. All of this came out at the trial because no one really knew what was going on. Of course, family members and even teachers had suspicions that something sinister was happening, but no one said anything. When they had family members over Erik's dad would tell everyone not to go in Erik’s or Lyle’s room while he was in there with either one of them and no one was supposed to go down the hallway to hear what was going on! Excuse me? So, everyone just obeyed no one called the cops !? When Lyle was 9 years old, he asks her cousin if he could touch her down there because his father play like that with him! The cousin told his mother, and she did nothing! Both boys were sexually abused by their father for years until one day they had enough and shot both parents. You might be asking yourself well if the father was the one who abused them why did they kill their mother too? Good question they asked Lyle that at the trial he said it’s because one day “he came downstairs crying because of the abuse and his mother asked him what’s wrong and he wouldn’t say but his mother then reply “you think I don’t know what’s going on? I know everything “and in that moment he felt betrayed, angry and hurt that his mother didn’t protect him and his brother. For a year no one suspected them of anything, they were paranoid but their parents left them a lot of money so they would live a lavish life and they spent over 2 millions dollars of the fortune I think buying expensive jewelry, clothes, fitness coaches, properties, boats… but Erik couldn’t take it anymore so he confessed his crime to a therapist who secretly recorded the conversation and then told his girlfriend about what the boys did, but when he broke up with the girlfriend the woman went to the police and told them everything. The therapist lost his license and both boys were arrested for their parents murder.
Now here’s where it gets tricky.
the prosecutors could very well argue they did it for money and they wanted to spend their inheritance that’s why they killed their parents because of all the money they’ve already spent but the brothers confessed that’s not what happened at all. They explained how they’ve been sexually abused their whole lives but by that point the public and the jury have already made up their minds they saw the boys as murderers. I’m not saying they’re not murderers, but I do have sympathy for them. My heart breaks for them, although they did an awful thing, but no one can fully understand what it’s like for a man to be abused by their father and not being able to do anything about it. What they did was wrong and I wish none of that happened. Watching their testimonies from the trial broke my heart, I cried so much watching Lyle explain how everything happened. Erik was also crying while his brother was on the stand and you can tell those boys are victims. I am not saying their parents deserved to die but what about them ? They were sentenced to life in prison. I can assure you if they were the Menendez sisters they would be free today but because they are men people cannot accept that men and boys can be abused sexually too by their fathers if they were girls that would make more sense.
Who are we judge? only God can sees our heart and our true intentions. When David killed his mistress husband God forgave him for that. I’m not saying they shouldn’t have went to jail yes they should have but life without parole is a bit much! when you have similar cases of people who did the same thing who were not given a life sentence but the only difference is that they were women.
2024-09-22T01:55:05+02:00
That time an hairstylist hated doing my hair.
That was in December 2017 and it was the second and final time I ever gotten a sew in. I remember this like yesterday! I first went natural in February 2017 and my hair wasn’t as soft as it is now. My hair was still very coarse but it was also dry because I had just washed it and I didn’t want to put any products in it because I thought that’s what I was supposed to do! But I was wrong for that. Also it was my first time embracing my hair so I had a lot to learn! I used the wrong products! Used the wrong oils but hey look where we are now! I am so proud of my journey.
Alright let’s get into the story time.
I went to the hairstylist’s house to get my hair done, it was me and my best friend. When she got to doing my hair, she used the wrong comb and she was detangling my hair from root to tip! If you have natural hair you know we don’t detangle our hair like this! It’s super painful and it causes a lot of breakage plus my hair broke her comb lol. She kept detangling my hair wrong and she kept complaining that my hair was too thick and that I should put a perm in to make it more manageable like excuse me! I was furious but it was after she did my hair I realize what damage she caused. My hair was soooo tight I looked like I was mixed with Asian ! My eyes were so spread out! I had a massive headache for like days ! I couldn’t sleep. When I finally took the hair out my edges fell out and I was soooo sad but don’t worry after a couple of months my hair was thriving again. After that I never got a sew in again! I was traumatized.
that was it!
I’m not getting braids, or put any wigs any time soon. Maybe in the future but for now I don’t want to. I love my hair so much and I have gotten used to doing it. I don’t want to use any fake hair right now. I’ve had my fair share of fake hair, there was a time I used to do my hair every 2 months and always a different style! Now I’m just tired of it. I’m tired of sitting down for hours to get my hair braided. I just want to be left alone. I don’t want to put anyone in my hair. I just want to chill.
2024-09-22T00:11:54+02:00
2024-09-21T22:24:49+02:00
As an avoidant style girlie this won’t work!
2024-09-21T21:57:36+02:00
Relationships advice and my thoughts on some things.
I think it depends on the people in the relationship and how well they are able to communicate. If the couple struggle to communicate then it will not work because that’s all they have! If there’s no plan in place to meet up or to eventually live together then what’s the point? Me personally I won’t move in with anyone unless we’re married but whatever floats your boat. My last almost relationship was long distance but he would visit me a lot and we would spend a lot of times together but when we were apart our communication style sucks! I loved being with him but talking on the phone was whack! That showed me it’s not going to work but then again I have an avoidant attachment style if you don’t reach out, you won’t hear from me even though I think about you from time to time I will avoid contacting you. I will get into the attachment styles later.
Back to the question, if the couple spend a lot of time talking on the phone and on face time that will help them get to know each other better but they will need to spend time together physically at some point to see how compatible they are. It will work if both people want to make it work otherwise you can’t force anything.
Yes! This is extremely important. You need to identify with your attachment style before you can be serious with anyone. There are a lot of books and articles online that can help you with this. When I was a teenager I had an anxious attachment style which is why my first relationship did not last! It lasted a week. I would call him everyday ! And I would text him constantly because I was seeking that validation from him. I think that first relationship messed me up because after that I never tried in any of my relationships. I was deeply hurt and therapy did helped me with this. I am always afraid of intimacy or to open up to anyone which is why I have an avoidant attachment style, I am working to get to a secure attachment style. I can never date someone who has anxious attachment style because I will break his heart! If he’s too clingy I always ask him to block me. Because I won’t give him what he needs! I can already tell. It sucks! It’s painful to not being able to let myself be with anyone but I am working on that part of myself. The goal is to get to a secure attachment style, where you are comfortable with intimacy, not afraid to let people in, not afraid to express your love and affection. People often think having an avoidant attachment style makes you heartless but that couldn’t be further from the trust if anything you’re so hurt that you are afraid of being even more hurt so you block everything out! We love deeply so much that it scares us! We take commitment very seriously which is why we aren’t so quit to put labels on things without being sure.
( that’s all for now)
2024-09-20T15:42:10+02:00
Cute, weird things about me.
2024-09-20T14:21:41+02:00
okay let's talk about Teresa because it's getting even more crazy as I keep watching! we are going to talk about more characters.
Luisa: she is Arturo's sister, she has money, and she lives with her brother. When Teresa first met her, she thought Luisa was just a secretary, so she didn't pay Luisa no mind but as soon as Arturo presented Luisa as his sister her whole demeanor change, and she started to be nice to Luisa in order to get closer to Arturo! did I mention Teresa loves money and she doesn't actually love Arturo she just loves his money. Poor Arturo he has no idea he is thinking Teresa loves him and want to get along with his sister to keep him happy. He has a lot to learn about women like Teresa! the only good think Teresa did for Luisa is give her a makeover because Luisa was looking like a librarian at first but then Teresa helped her change her hair and styled her. Luisa always had a crush on Fernando who's her brother's best friend, but for some reason nothing ever happened until later on when Fernando came for a business proposal and Luisa became his partner in the business deal, so they started dating. When Teresa learned that Fernando was richer than Arturo, she started to subtly flirt with Fernando even though she knows that's Arturo's best friend.
Aida: she is sort of Teresa's enemy since high school they never really get along especially since Teresa was dating Paulo at some point and Aida always had a crush on Paulo ever since she was a kid. Paulo really loves Teresa and again she doesn't love him, she loves his money and all the gift that he is giving her. Aida always knew something was wrong with Teresa because she never brought Paulo or anyone to her house, she always met them at Aurora her best friend's house.
Paulo: he really does love Teresa but there's something about her that he doesn't understand how come she always say that her parents leave her in the house alone while they travel to Europe, but she never invites him over?! and he has been showering her with gifts, but she never bought him anything but hey she's hot and he loves her. But one day after a party at school he followed her home, and he was shocked to see her get in a very poor house! and her parents were there so she's not rich and she has been lying this whole-time wow! what a liar? but his heart is broken, and she broke up with him when she finds out about what happened. Now Aida is all over him and she wants to get revenge on Teresa and Aida humiliate Teresa in front of the whole school and told everyone that Teresa his poor and her father is just a mechanic. Teresa cried home even though that makes Paulo sad because Aida went too far, he stayed with her. Aida started to seduced Paulo and he let it happen in order to make Teresa jealous, but she doesn't even care. eventually he started taking Aida a little serious and was even planning to get married but what he doesn't know is that Teresa spoke to a drug dealer in the neighborhood and told the dealer to give Paulo drugs. Paulo became addicted to drugs and overdose right before his wedding with Aida. What's sad about all this He was planning to get clean, but he saw Teresa and she told him "You're no use to me I pray that God eliminates you" he was so sad because he still loved Teresa, and he took his last batch of drugs and overdosed! I cried :( Teresa learns what happed and felt terrible for like 5 minutes! but now the drug dealer is threaten her to give him money because he will tell everyone she was the one who told him to give Paulo drugs with a lot of messages and class schedule in Teresa's handwriting to back it up. when I find out what happen next, I'll tell you!
Aida's dad: he has been dating Teresa's friend and he has been dating his wife best friend! so, he was smashing both at one point until Teresa's friend realize he will never divorce his wife and left him but not before she got pregnant (poor girl) I kind of feel bad for her because he brainwashed her and she is not a bad person, but she should've known better not to sleep with a married man. She even made a scene at Teresa's wedding! I'll get to that. She finds out Aida's dad is also smashing his wife best friend, but she didn't say anything yet! like girl what are you waiting for drop the bomb!!!!!!
Teresa and Arturo: eventually she decided to marry him even though she doesn't even love him right before the wedding Teresa slept with Marianno and promised him that she was going to fled with him and not get married to Arturo, of course that was a lie! she ended up marrying Arturo even though Mariano came to the wedding to stop it, but Teresa slapped him in the church like girl have some decorum!! anyway she went to the honeymoon, and she was writing " T y M" on the sand which stands for Teresa and Mariano! eventually she had to sleep with Arturo at the honeymoon, but she didn't like it, and she kept thinking about Mariano!
I'll let you know more later! it's getting hot
2024-09-19T04:24:40+02:00
Make your work out fun.
I always thought going to the gym to work out was this big thing where I would have to move my life around to accommodate myself to get used to it but ohh boy was I wrong!
Today I ran for 8 minutes on the treadmill I think I ran a mile, but it could be more I didn’t calculate it. I said I wasn’t going to use the treadmill for cardio but I eat everything so I must do cardio! Not too much tho which is why I only stayed for 8 minutes on the treadmill. I was running at full sprint! I’m so proud of myself ;) running really gets the adrenaline flowing in my brain I love it as a form of warm up; it’s like an appetizer before I move on to strength training.
Alright let’s make it fun!
For example, I would never wake up at 4am to go work out because that’s not something that sounds remotely fun to me ! As you guys already know this I love sleeping and I need all the sleep I can get!
For example, to make your work out fun you could do these things that I do
2024-09-19T02:19:26+02:00
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