I have been single my whole life and this is no secret because I am very open about it, I used to feel bad for always being single while all of my friends were getting into relationships. I used to feel inadequate when it came to romantic relationships, not too long ago I used to say things like " I am always alone and I am probably going to end up alone" or I used to say " nobody likes me and I will never find my soulmate" well it's that type of mentality that will eventually cause me to be alone if I didn't change it. I don't think like that anymore because I think that I have been single my whole life for a reason and my soulmate could literally be in my life right now while I have no idea that he is the one because simply it's not the right time. I believe that my story is being written and it has not stopped just because I am single, I can still be happy and feel loved.
how to be happy single?
first, you will need to change your mindset, change the way you view men or women, and prioritize your singlehood because you can literally get married in the next 3 years so you will never be single again so take that time to learn more about yourself and figure out whether or not you are ready for a life long commitment. Learn more about what you like, what triggers you, and what makes you mad, and stop believing that life will be perfect once you find the right person because that is simply not true.
1. stop envying other people's relationships: To be honest I used to envy others when they post cute pictures with their significant other and I used to feel so left out when I saw those couple goals posts... the truth is you and I have no idea what's going on in that relationship. It is just a picture online for all I know they could be arguing daily, and one of them could be cheating on the other so instead of feeling bad about what they had I need to focus on myself and on my blessings instead.
2. romanticize your life: you don't have to be obsessed with yourself and your life but you can fall in love with yourself, you can love the life that you are living because you will feel happier if you love your life. take yourself on dates, go to concerts alone, buy yourself flowers, take yourself out to eat, and enjoy yourself. Be your own best friend, and take time to self-reflect and journal. Take care of your mental health, and go to therapy if you need because by doing these things you will cause fewer problems in a relationship when you are ready to start dating again, take time to deal with your demons before you allow someone in your life to suffer with you.
3. de-center yourself from men: I am a woman so I am going to talk about my own experience. there was a time in my life I used to seek validation from men, I used to think would men like it if I dress this way, would I meet my soulmate if I act this way, or let me post certain pictures to attract a certain guy... let me tell you when you are seeking validation from a man it never ends well because I became so dependent on being validated by men that I started to feel empty when I didn't get it. So I stop, yes I started living life just for me. I will dress that way because I WANT TO, I would post that picture because I WANT TO not because I wanted a guy to make me feel good. I instantly became happier by doing things just for me and not for the attention of other men. How sad would life be if you are just living for the approval of others? you would never be truly happy because you are always looking for a reason to be happy.
4. fall in love with yourself: loving yourself entails " taking care of yourself physically, emotionally and mentally" " walking away from things and people who are toxic for your overall well-being" and " putting yourself first because you know that if you have nothing you cannot help anyone else" by doing these things you are showing that you truly love yourself.
5. do things that make you happy: this is your time alone so have fun, take advantage of the fact that you can do whatever you want to do so travel the world, experience new things, buy that bike you always wanted, and learn how to ride a bike if you don't know. You don't have to be miserable while you are single, life doesn't just stop and especially if you are young you will regret it more if you didn't enjoy your youth when you get older.
6. stop caring about what people think: no one cares about you or your life the way you care about yourself. we all have our own problems and we are all trying to figure out life so do you think people have time to care about why you are single or why you are living the way that you are living? I am sorry to burst your bubble but no one cares! and that is a good thing because you can literally live your life however way you want to live it and that is a blessing only we humans have. as humans we can choose the way we want to live whereas other creatures such as animals live on instinct, but you and I have the power to chose so let's chose a life that we are proud of.
Personally, I am perfectly content alone and when the right person comes into my life I'll see if I am ready to take that step. I joke a lot about wanting to be in a relationship but deep down I take relationships very seriously and I will not date anyone unless I feel ready or I feel like it is the right time.
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