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" you're not asking for too much, you're just asking the wrong person. Put up the price and double it so they can leave faster than they arrived"
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let me explain.
I know I keep saying I want to find a friend that I can trust but I haven't really tried to maintain any possible connection with anyone, but I don't have an excuse I just simply don't feel ready to open up to anyone at the moment. God Knows how much I am in need of a best friend but at the same time when I look at friendships between women nowadays I just can't help but ask myself are these friendships genuine? there's so much drama, and I hate drama. So much competition between women that I don't even bother maintaining any friendship anymore. I have never been jealous of anyone because of what they had, I am always rooting for my friends, I always want better for them, always want them to succeed and go up the ladder because I know I am going up anyways might as well make sure everyone on my team go up with me. But not everyone see it that way, they would rather compete than to help their friends. I have always hated competition and that is why I don't play sports except video games because I am not doing anything physical. For some reason some women see it as competition when they see another woman leveling up, to me that is beautiful especially if it's a black woman then that is just black girl magic right there.
There are great friends out there and I had the chance to meet a few amazing friends throughout my lifetime on this earth, and I love them dearly but for some reason or another we did grow apart but I will always love them. Do I want to find a great friend? YESSSSS but am I looking? Nope lol I think it will happen when I least expect it just like my love life, I mean it is none existent right now but anything can happen right? :)
2022-11-14T03:33:19+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
The rules that I wrote about yesterday is not about playing games, this is about protecting your heart and to avoid hurtful experiences. Do we know someone is going to hurt you just by them trying to make some types of effort to get to know you? No, sometimes the person who looks like the angel is actually the demon who will break your heart and shatter you the most.
but honestly setting good and firm boundaries is a great thing, it shows that you love yourself and you value your peace. I admit not being able to chase a man as a woman is probably a good thing but I am not about to act like I am not interested in you if I am. I am not about to act like I don’t want to spend time with you if I do, I hate playing games. Why do we have to act like we are not into each other if we are, if I want to reply fast I will and if I’m busy then I won’t text back quick because my phone is not in my hand or I simply don’t want to text at the moment.
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Publié depuis Eklablog
“ if you knew me well last month, I am no longer the same. My story changes after every conversation.”
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Part 1
Rules.
This is mostly for all the women who comes here, but man can read this too.
I have made a lot of mistakes with finding the right man to date, that is why I love the fact that I do all my things in private because it would be embarrassing if everyone knew what I did for these men. I have been on a little experiment for the last few months, I have been easy in some ways to see if I was missing out on anything. And I realize that I wasn’t ! I have made a ton of mistakes consciously because I wanted to see if acting out with my masculine energy would change anything. Here’s what I did.
- I allowed myself to chase someone who I thought was going to chose me but guess what he didn’t.
- I ease all of my boundaries for just one person to see if being vulnerable and being an open book would change anything but guess what it didn’t!
- I was transparent and let a man know exactly what was on my mind prematurely just to see if he would stay and stick by me well guess what he also left!
Well I did more than that but I’m not going to mention the rest is too embarrassing but what I can say is that I even allowed myself to act thirsty … I did all of that just to “learn”because I only learn when I make my own mistakes which is totally wrong and I should’ve never let myself stoop this low. But one cannot become an expert without making mistakes.
Those are the rules.
- Never chase a man. If a man is not texting you, calling you or initiating any future plans well that’s your answer right there ! HE DOES NOT WANT YOU. It hurts when you want him to chase you but never forget that if he wanted you to be his girlfriend he would’ve done everything to make it happen. Men are hunters and women are their prey so you really don’t have to do much. All we have to as women is reciprocate or tell them no we are not interested. It’s sad but that’s the way it works ugh I wish I was a man! (That’s a joke I love being a strong independent woman lol)
- Never allow a man to tell you he doesn’t want you twice. The first sign a man doesn’t want you to be his girlfriend is LACK OF CONSISTENCY. A man who wants you will be calling you, texting you, complimenting you and want to be in your presence. Well I had to learn this the hard way, and trying to show the man what he is missing will not change how he feels about you either. Them not choosing you is not because you are lacking anything it just shows that he is not the right man for you. Now ladies walking away the first time you notice that he is not interested will save you time and tears because when you are becoming more emotionally invested in this man it will be even harder for you to move on.
- Always set clear boundaries. Man does not respect women who doesn’t have any boundaries. You don’t have to explain to the man all of your boundaries just show him if he does this he just crossed the line and you aren’t going to tolerate that. We all need boundaries even in friendships because that is a way to protect yourself from people using you and treating you like disposable.
- Make the man work for it. Ladies before you allow a man to get in your pants know exactly what you really want; do you want to wait before marriage? Are you celibate? Are you a Christian? Are you ready for a baby? Because one of the purpose of having sex is to reproduce so really think about it. And never let a man pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to do. Always remember to Never give it up the first night and in everything that you do just make him work for it because as an high value woman you have to set a price and have standards because these man will take anything you’re willing to give even if they aren’t going to stay with you or marry you but you know you deserve more than that so act like it because these man won’t !
- Never let a man know how emotionally invested in him you are. Showing to a man that you are so in love with him prematurely will not only make you an easy prey but it will allow him to do anything he wants because he knows you are going to stay because you love him and you are crazy about him.
- When you break up with a guy or he breaks up with you. Take a step back, never contact him again, cry if you need and go to therapy and move on. Do not call him, do not stalk him, do not ask about him. You no longer know this man. Delete every memory, every messages, every link you have to this person and just make way for something better.