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2022-11-13T14:52:47+01:00
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2022-11-13T05:46:57+01:00
Part 1
Rules.
This is mostly for all the women who comes here, but man can read this too.
I have made a lot of mistakes with finding the right man to date, that is why I love the fact that I do all my things in private because it would be embarrassing if everyone knew what I did for these men. I have been on a little experiment for the last few months, I have been easy in some ways to see if I was missing out on anything. And I realize that I wasn’t ! I have made a ton of mistakes consciously because I wanted to see if acting out with my masculine energy would change anything. Here’s what I did.
- I allowed myself to chase someone who I thought was going to chose me but guess what he didn’t.
- I ease all of my boundaries for just one person to see if being vulnerable and being an open book would change anything but guess what it didn’t!
- I was transparent and let a man know exactly what was on my mind prematurely just to see if he would stay and stick by me well guess what he also left!
Well I did more than that but I’m not going to mention the rest is too embarrassing but what I can say is that I even allowed myself to act thirsty … I did all of that just to “learn”because I only learn when I make my own mistakes which is totally wrong and I should’ve never let myself stoop this low. But one cannot become an expert without making mistakes.
Those are the rules.
- Never chase a man. If a man is not texting you, calling you or initiating any future plans well that’s your answer right there ! HE DOES NOT WANT YOU. It hurts when you want him to chase you but never forget that if he wanted you to be his girlfriend he would’ve done everything to make it happen. Men are hunters and women are their prey so you really don’t have to do much. All we have to as women is reciprocate or tell them no we are not interested. It’s sad but that’s the way it works ugh I wish I was a man! (That’s a joke I love being a strong independent woman lol)
- Never allow a man to tell you he doesn’t want you twice. The first sign a man doesn’t want you to be his girlfriend is LACK OF CONSISTENCY. A man who wants you will be calling you, texting you, complimenting you and want to be in your presence. Well I had to learn this the hard way, and trying to show the man what he is missing will not change how he feels about you either. Them not choosing you is not because you are lacking anything it just shows that he is not the right man for you. Now ladies walking away the first time you notice that he is not interested will save you time and tears because when you are becoming more emotionally invested in this man it will be even harder for you to move on.
- Always set clear boundaries. Man does not respect women who doesn’t have any boundaries. You don’t have to explain to the man all of your boundaries just show him if he does this he just crossed the line and you aren’t going to tolerate that. We all need boundaries even in friendships because that is a way to protect yourself from people using you and treating you like disposable.
- Make the man work for it. Ladies before you allow a man to get in your pants know exactly what you really want; do you want to wait before marriage? Are you celibate? Are you a Christian? Are you ready for a baby? Because one of the purpose of having sex is to reproduce so really think about it. And never let a man pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to do. Always remember to Never give it up the first night and in everything that you do just make him work for it because as an high value woman you have to set a price and have standards because these man will take anything you’re willing to give even if they aren’t going to stay with you or marry you but you know you deserve more than that so act like it because these man won’t !
- Never let a man know how emotionally invested in him you are. Showing to a man that you are so in love with him prematurely will not only make you an easy prey but it will allow him to do anything he wants because he knows you are going to stay because you love him and you are crazy about him.
- When you break up with a guy or he breaks up with you. Take a step back, never contact him again, cry if you need and go to therapy and move on. Do not call him, do not stalk him, do not ask about him. You no longer know this man. Delete every memory, every messages, every link you have to this person and just make way for something better.
2022-11-13T02:17:37+01:00
signs that you were forced to grow up too quickly.
People who were forced to grow up too quickly have this mentality where they think they have to do it all themselves. I am like this and honestly, it is not a great thing because not being able to let somebody help you makes them feel inadequate so therefore they leave you alone and do not help you anymore. which could result in you feeling isolated and alone.
we have this thing where it can feel like we are micromanaging everything I mean it can be annoying but it's coming from a place where as a child you had to take care of some things you were not ready for because it was too soon but with time and with the right person you will eventually let go and trust someone enough to let them take over.
2022-11-11T21:53:48+01:00
Is your cell phone messing up your life?
I use my cellphone for everything and I feel lost without it but it has gotten to a point that if my cellphone was not in my hand while I was out somewhere I would feel like I am stuck because I need to look at my phone as an escape plan even though I don't have any notifications coming in. My cellphone have made my anxiety worse the more time I spend on it the more I feel like I am too dependent on it.
I hate being addicted to anything starting from alcohol, shopping, people, and now my phone. Whenever I feel like I am getting addicted to something I take a step back and not do it for months until I break the habit completely., I have been turning off my phone now and staying away from it and I can testify that I feel a lot better. I feel like my addictive tendency is wearing off and I am slowly becoming more like myself. Not being on my phone allows me to engage with people, to take a look at my surrounding, to look people in the eyes when they're talking to me and honestly I feel more alive. I will be taking more breaks from my phone now because I am trying to break the habit of constantly checking my phone because it doesn't help my mental health at all.
Can you relate?
2022-11-11T17:09:28+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
black panther is here guys! I am going to watch it alone this week end :) just a little fun date with myself... :)))
2022-11-11T15:45:43+01:00
winter time.
I have a love and hate relationship with the winter times, I do love being home when it's cold outside snuggle up with my cats and some hot tea while watching my comfort movies but sometimes when it gets dark outside at 5pm I literally don't want to do anything. I am sure a lot of you feel the same, this whole week my brain has been trying to get adjusted to this time. I have been procrastinating a lot lately and I am not being productive because when I get home from work all I want to do is sleep and snuggle up in bed; I have not been cooking as I should or cleaning that much.
One thing people forget to mention when you are dealing with mental health issues is that you fall behind on a lot of things especially with cleaning because you already feel so drained, unproductive and tired so the last thing you want to do is clean. That doesn't mean you are a dirty or a messy person; you are surviving and you are here so be proud of that. I hate mess so you know what I did? I left work early yesterday while the sun was still out just so I could go home and clean. The way that I was rushing to leave to go home you would think that I had an emergency; I mean I had a cleaning emergency that's what it was !
I do love knowing that the sun is outside even If I am not outside but knowing that it's there makes me feel a lot more productive... does that make sense? I mean it does to me so I guess that's what matters.
2022-11-11T03:00:31+01:00
2022-11-10T15:57:57+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
" the best compliment I ever gotten had nothing to do with my physical appearance, someone told me the other day "wow you look really happy lately" and that literally made my day because for so long I didn't smile and now that God is working in me and I feel a lot better and lighter, that compliment literally encouraged me to smile more and to keep going :)))
2022-11-09T17:29:32+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
" some people only love the attention you give them they don't necessarily love you."
2022-11-08T16:40:27+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
This morning I woke up at 4am for absolutely no reason and I went on twitter, normally I try not to use my phone during the night especially in the middle of the night because the light will keep me awake. but I was bored and Archie was having the zoomies again maybe he woke me up with all the noise, anyway I checked my twitter and I do plan on quitting because Elon Musk owns it now and it's such a mess over there. But I was reading a thread on Michael Jackson last days and it was quite sad because I am such a big fan but I never look at what happened when he died because the last time I did I was sad for days, I barely look at the last interview he did in 2009 because I knew he wasn't doing so well but I never knew how bad his situation was.
Basically he was supposed to go on tour doing 50 concerts starting July 2009! ask me how someone could do 50 concerts I don't know! I'm young and I can't imagine myself singing and dancing for 2 hours in front of a huge crowd nights after nights! but then again I am not a singer but that sounds like a suicide mission and sadly if he didn't die before the concerts he probably would've died while on stage (this is so sad) he did not need to do all of those concerts. He had nothing to prove he was already king of pop he could've just retired and take care of his kids and his health. He was so frail, he looked sick ! but all that wasn't up to him, his manager made him sing while he was in pain. The dancers could not say anything because they were afraid to lose their job Frank Delio which was MJ manager said "get him a bucket of chicken" how dare he? how cold of a person can you be to watch someone as kind as Michael Jackson suffering but to just dismiss all of that! MJ was always cold and he slept in front of the fire place and he was wearing so many shirts under his jacket plus a sweatpants in the middle of summer and no one didn't think that was suspicious??? MJ was a big star and I know he had money problems but his health was more important than all of that. They gave him Propofol to help him sleep every night and that's a powerful drug that should only be used in the hospital setting before surgery or things like that.... he was sleep deprived and the autopsy showed that he did not sleep for 60 days!!! Gosh I don't know that was even humanly possible !
I am not saying MJ was perfect but he certainly didn't deserved to die the way he did, he was healthy at 50 years old but all of the stress of rehearsal and his team putting pressure on him really made it worse. I wish he was still here, although he would be old but knowing that he is here and that he could still make interviews in his sweet voice is all that we need...