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If you are someone who lives alone or planning to live alone soon this is for you; living alone is great if you love your own space and don't mind spending time by yourself; but if you're someone who relies on other people to help you get through life it can be challenging to live alone because I can guaranty you living alone is not for the weak but you should totally do it because it's part of growing up and being an adult. You are entitled to have your own space once you turn 18 or maybe younger if you are emancipated or don't really have a choice, I would say yeah if you can afford your own place go ahead and do it. The first couple of months will be challenging especially at night when you're going to bed because it's dark and it can be quiet; for me I find it comforting to have a night light and it's not as quiet for me because Archie often cries for a few hours before going to sleep but that doesn't bother me anymore because I got used to his meowing. If you don't like being alone you can watch tv or just have the tv open for background noise and even if you don't mind being alone sometimes it can be very depressing so just put your favorite show on, blast your favorite songs on a speaker or listen to a podcast that can truly be fun. I find that listening to a podcast everyday is both educational and fun so you can just try to find a topic that you like and want to know more about or just pick someone you find their voice to be attractive or soothing.
Living alone makes you realize just how much responsibility there is in life, you have to cook for yourself or at least learn how to cook, you have to do your own laundry or learn to do it and you have to be consistent with it because if you don't you will not have any clothes to wear and your house will be gross, you also have to clean your house and do dishes or at least get a dish washer... I mean when you live at your parents house or at someone's house who do all those things for you although I can't really see someone doing all of your chores for you unless you are at your parents house or you are married but when you live alone you have to do all of those things regardless of how you feel I mean yeah you can do your chores later when you feel like it but they will be there waiting for you. You also have to call maintenance when your sink is clogged or when something stops working; if you don't own the house the landlord will provide that assistance but you have to find your own maintenance company when you own the house and that's another big responsibility because if you don't find someone who can fix the problem you will always have that problem unless you can fix it yourself but I'm a girl I don't know how to build or fix anything so I need my maintenance guy.
Being by yourself can cause you to have anxiety or actually make it worse if you already have it because you will feel alone at times and it can feel like you have no one to talk so you will find yourself laying in your bed crying, then you might find yourself stalking your ex or someone who rejected you in 8th grade anyway anxiety will do that to you. When you feel those things happening and you feel like you're exaggerating the problem just call someone you trust and talk about it. When you talk about your problems you may find solutions or ways to cope so don't be ashamed to ask for help (that advice is for me as well because I am in the same boat). When we are living alone it can go 2 ways it's either you feel so comfortable with being alone that you isolate yourself so much that you almost feel much better alone than with other people; or you can hate being alone so much that you would rather spend time outside your home more and socializing all the time. Both of these options are bad because you need a sort of balance in life and that goes for everything; you shouldn't stay alone too much because it will almost feel like you don't have anyone and you can become so self centered that everything should be or has to be about you and your problems; secondly spending time with people so much can make it difficult for your to spend time by yourself or go anywhere alone and you probably won't have time to get to know yourself or have time to do any self reflecting to grow. We need to socialize because we need to build relationships with other people especially when you live alone because you might need help or someone to help you get through a difficult time; I realize that spending time with others is a form of survival because we always need someone for something we cannot just live a life without needing anything from anyone. You also need to spend time alone to grow your spirituality or to get to know God if you want to be spiritual, to get to know yourself and to find out what needs to change in your character.
I will write something else about this because I don't like when my articles are long on this blog, this should just be a quick and easy reading. :)