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2023-05-16T21:52:53+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R

 

What’s going on.

 

It has come to my attention that a lot of YouTubers who were part of the natural hair community are putting relaxers in their hair. I am not judging anyone and my blog is not a way for me to talk bad about people but it’s a way for me to express myself and have a voice. This is just my opinion, you can do whatever you want with your hair; you can cut it, go bald,  dye it or perm it I don’t care.

 

You all know I put a texturizer in my hair in 2020 after the pandemic because I was under a lot of stress and I became tired of my natural hair. For those of you that doesn’t know what a texturizer is I will explain: it’s a chemical product you put on your hair to make it straighter or less curly it’s not like a perm that will just make your hair straight but it’s still a chemical. Me personally I will stay away from perm and texturizers because those things can cause uterine cancer, they can damage your hair and cause hair loss. I will not use this in my house ever again not on me and especially not on my kids when I have kids. Look I get it having natural hair is not for the weak, it takes a whole day for you to wash your hair and style it. On top of spending a lot of time on your hair, the hair products are soooo expensive! I went to my local beauty supply store to buy products because I have really thick hair so my products doesn’t last that long… and my hair is growing I don’t know what I will do when it reaches my back! I need to start saving money now lol anyway I spend a lot of money to keep my hair moisturized. I didn’t spend that much money when I had a relaxer in my hair but my hair was falling off like crazy too. 

 

It’s dangerous to use relaxers in your hair because it causes a lot of health problems, most relaxers and hair smoothing products release  formaldehyde gas which is basically poison like why do I want that?. Those relaxers also  burns your scalp ( my scalp is still recovering  from the burns I got in 2021!) and you are just destroying your hair more and more each time you put in your hair. If I want straight hair I can just get a straight wig or straighten my own hair with heat ( I also don’t like yo use heat on my hair not even a hair dryer). I am not doing relaxers anymore, I learned my lesson. 

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2023-05-15T23:45:39+02:00

listen.

Publié par Gaelle.R

will 2023 be the death of me? yes, I think it might be lol but I leave everything in God's hands and am doing everything I can to survive. I am not giving up! I am probably the most courageous, hard-working person I know! I have been through so much alone that I never talked about it with anyone except my mama. My mother is my only best friend we talk about everything, she opens up with me because she knows I only trust her,  we have this thing where I say " I need you to be my friend now" meaning we will talk about everything without any filter because at this point I am not her daughter I am just her friend when we're done talking about it she says " okay mwen vle pitit fim kounya" meaning I want my daughter now. 

 

people can judge me for all the things that I am not doing but I KNOW WHAT I AM DEALING WITH, they don't know! nobody is calling me checking in on me or giving me money. I am the only one who got me, I am the only one providing for me. I don't care about anyone judging me for not driving everywhere you don't know how my bank account is set up, don't judge me if I can only afford to take my religious meetings on Zoom you have no idea what I am going through... I think it's so insensitive when we judge someone about all the things they aren't doing while we don't even know what the person is going through.  Be kind to everyone, be understanding, we are in the middle of a recession, and times are hard. 

If you aren't helping then leave me alone, I got a lot to deal with right now and I don't have time for silly games.

 

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2023-05-15T04:03:11+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R

My life is so complicated I don’t want to bring anyone in it, I don’t even want to be in it.

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2023-05-13T15:08:12+02:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R

 

Conversation pointers.

 

We all have things that we are interested in and when people ask us about them we tend to light up when we talk about it. here’s some conversation pointers to have with me if you see me and you want to talk to me ( look at me allowing people to talk to me lol) I know I look mean well I am not! just ask me anything. Here’s a few questions you could ask me to keep it interesting or to keep me interested because I tend to get bored and I will never just start talking about myself.

Ask me:

  • So what do you like to do on your free time? ( chances are I might mention writing, playing video games or watching football, or reading and watching movies)
  • What are you writing about ? ( that would really like ignite the fire )
  • Ask me what are my favorite movies or my favorite actors? 
  • Who’s your favorite football team ? ( buckle up your seat belt because i will talk for a while unless you’re genuinely interested don’t ask me about that)
  • If you really want the key to my heart ask me about my cats … anything will suffice at this point I am always looking for a reason to talk about them but since you ask it will make it even more special.
  • Ask me about places where I want to travel to.
  • Ask me what music I listen to, if we are driving in the car together just pass me the aux cord that will really make me comfortable !
  • Ask me if you can watch a match with me. At this point we will either be best friends or you’re literally my husband. 

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2023-05-13T03:37:59+02:00

recap of 2022

Publié par Gaelle.R

It's almost mid-2023 and I just realized I never really did a recap for last year oops !! not that you care but I care because when I get older I want to look back on this ... so here is the recap of 2022 you never asked for.

The year started out very uneventful, I was somewhat sad about a lot of things and I grew apart from some close friends that I made not too long ago. I was kind of a mess but no one would've known because I pretended everything was fine when clearly IT WAS NOT !!! anyways growing apart from those people did make me sad. People think that it is easy for me to walk away or to just cut someone off but it's not! I normally cut someone off because they make me sad, they make me mad or they always disappoint me so why would I stick around for that? In the words of Taraji P Henson " I gotta put me first" lol okay so yeah the beginning of the year was also tragic my cousin passed away... she was very young but she got covid and she did not recover. I was sad for a while, but then in April we started having religious meetings in person instead of having it on Zoom so I was happy even though I was really scared. I remember having panic attacks at the kingdom hall wow it felt like such a long time ago!! I don't have those anymore and my anxiety is practically almost gone now... I also remember panicking because I had one month to lose weight so that I could fit into all the dresses I bought haha wow! I would never do that again! I buy the clothes to fit me now not for me to fit the clothes but the diet really helped me feel more confident so why not?

I started wearing my mini afro in public and some people criticized me for cutting my hair that short but guess what? I DID NOT CARE lol I knew my hair would not stay small forever so I pushed through. I started braiding my hair for the first time last year because it was way too short in 2021 so I couldn't braid it but last year I even got box braids. By the end of the year, my puff was medium in a bun and I was rocking it.

I got my second cat Pixie in June! he was the sweetest as soon as brought him home he just took a nap on the table while Archie was trying to get a look at him lol he was just sleeping! Who does that? it's like he already knew who I was and the house was his; Archie was not like that when I first got him he was hiding, he was crying because he missed his mom and siblings. the only time Pixie cried was when I locked him away in the bathroom when he wanted to roam the house but I couldn't do that because Archie was not used to him. I got Pixie on Friday and by Monday they were already friends! now they are brothers :)

Romantically it was dead for me but there were a few magical moments... 

I started watching the wizard liz on youtube in november and then I became even more confident to the point that now nobody can make me feel inferior that easily. I became aware of my strengths, my worth, and all the beautiful things about me thanks to Liz! She taught me to live with the " so what mentality " so now I can do just what I want and I am no longer afraid, I started speaking up, making more comments at the hall, walking away from people who don't value me... someone even called me mean! I was so happy because all my life they've always called me " the nice girl" which made me feel like a doormat to all the narcissists who came into my life.

By December I started watching soccer again to the point that I was keeping up with every world cup match score, I was not watching all of them at first but after seeing the final match between France and Argentina I was practically hooked. I fell in love with Kylian Mbappe and started watching him at Psg but then I started watching Haaland at manchester city so then I became obsessed with him too... now I watch all the psg games and manchester city matches, I even watch Real Madrid matches too. I am football obsessed now, I always liked it especially when I was younger but I kinda stopped when I came to the us because watching European football in America is expensive you need cable or a monthly subscription so in high school I was not thinking of that, I was more worried about my grades and which book I should read next so that my English could get better.

2022 was a good year. I learned a lot :)

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2023-05-12T14:25:40+02:00

pixie

Publié par Gaelle.R

Today is Pixie's neuter surgery day, I just dropped him off this morning. I hope everything goes well because Pixie is my little baby. I love him with all my heart and I didn't think I was going to love him this much. He is not a big boy and he is not too small either but needless to say, he is my little baby. it broke my heart that he will be in pain but at least he will be healthier.

I Love you Pixie :)

 

 

 

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2023-05-12T05:16:55+02:00

this will be a compilation of poems... just a few pages for now

Publié par Gaelle.R

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