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2024-01-24T01:25:34+01:00
2024-01-24T00:16:59+01:00
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Uhm?
So I saw a video of a man with a baby and the man said” I want to send this video over to black tiktok I just adopted this black baby and I don’t know what to do with her hair I got some shea moisture but I don’t know what else to do.” He said this as he was brushing the baby’s hair with a brush and immediately I took a flight down to the comments because what?
That video did not sit right with me because it was a white gay man who made that video after adopting a “black baby” he kept saying “black baby” which made me feel uncomfortable why can’t it just be a baby girl why couldn’t he said “ I am so excited to have my baby girl home but sadly I don’t know what to do with her hair.” Honestly the fact that he came to the internet with this concern made me feel like he’s looking for attention! It’s as if he was saying” hey look at me a white man with a black baby” the video was in poor taste and it made me questioned his true intentions! It made me ask myself does he not have a black woman friend who can help him ? Why would you adopt a black baby if you didn’t know what it entails?! Did he adopt the baby for clicks and likes? Nowadays people will do anything for 5 minutes of fame and I am genuinely worried about that beautiful baby because when I look at the man’s page with the baby; all I see is the baby sitting in uncomfortable positions alone! As a newborn the baby requires a lot of support to breathe and if the child is placed in a chair they need to be seated properly ! And that is not what I saw! Someone needs to call CPS because I don’t think this will end well! If I did this as a black woman all over the internet I promise you CPS would already be at my door! Imagine me as a black woman saying” I got this white baby and I don’t know how to take care of it” ! Jail immediately!!
2024-01-23T16:20:15+01:00
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that time someone stole my twitter account.
Basically, someone hacked my twitter last year around November. I am not sure because I barely go on that account. I only go on twitter periodically to check football news or when I want to get more info on something that is trending ... usually I get my football news on YouTube, Instagram and WhatsApp because I subscribe to my favorite football clubs.
I tried logging on my twitter back in December and I simply couldn't, so I sort of gave up after one try because like I said I don't really use it and I don't care much for it. I use threads a lot more now than twitter or "X " but finally in January I decided to get to the bottom of the issue so I logged in by changing the password because the person couldn't change the email on my account so when I logged in, I saw the person followed a bunch of accounts and posted random tweets! I was like wait hold on! did someone just moved in, and I didn't realize? So, I unfollow all the accounts the person followed and deleted all the tweets! like excuse me?? it takes 2 seconds to create a twitter account just make one for yourself and keep me out of it.
2024-01-22T20:11:52+01:00
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should we binge watch shows or movies?
One of the things I want to stop doing this year is watching television for more than 2 hours at once! when I binge watch a show or movie series that would normally take up my whole day and usually, I would have a headache and my eyes would hurt from all of that screen time. Watching too much tv or having too much screentime is detrimental for our brain cells. That much screentime take away from our ability to think properly and the ability to speak intelligently. Imagine if you were spending that much time reading? think about all the new words you could add to your vocabulary? I think about it, and I weep when I realize how much I've wasted in 2023.
watching too much tv is detrimental for my mental health because I am overstimulated from taken that much information in and usually, I would fall asleep right after... all of that is not good for me! I need to stay active, and my mind needs to stay alert not overwhelmed which is the feeling I get from watching videos and movies all day. There is a time for everything as long as I am not cramping 4 movies in one day then I am good, I also watch a ton of videos on YouTube as well sometimes they are educational and other times they are crime series! I need to stay away from crime docu-series because those videos are so depressing and at times, I need to take some time away from it to be happier. It's good to know the evil that's in the world but expecting the worse every day is just depressing...
2024-01-22T01:51:32+01:00
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Should women learn how to cook?
Believe it or not I was once a feminist! I used to believe women should be able to do the same thing a man can do without being penalized for it. I used to think it is not my job to clean the house and to cook for a man all the time because if I do it so can he; well sure a man can cook and clean but it is not their job! They are providers and they are the head of the household ( which I had a problem with that as well because at first I wanted to be one making the decision but let’s look at it this way if two people are the head of the household then nothing will get done! And everything will be a mess because there is no hierarchy ! And by letting the man be the head of the household does not mean that I don’t have a say in anything! )
For example I used to believe if a man can have multiple sexual partners then woman should be allowed to do the same without being seen as a whore because if that’s what we want to do then we should be able to do it. There was a lot of things wrong with my theory ! Because a woman’s body is not the same compare to a man! And we can’t detach sexual encounters from romantic feelings as easy as a man does! As women We are emotional beings and that is totally fine!
Now should we be able to cook?
Yes! We should, but first we must take the time to learn how to cook. Part of being a woman is to be nurturing and inviting; what better way to fulfill this part of our existence by cooking for the people we love? I used to feel less than when I was thinking about cooking for my male friends because to me that was so shameful to just hand a plate of food to a man! Why was I so prideful? Well maybe it was because I used to spend a lot of times watching feminist talk online and then I became to feel above the men. I am no longer a feminist by the way, I now believe it is totally okay to be submissive to man that you love, it is okay to cook for your man because it feels so great to see someone you love smile and be happy because of something you made. Cooking for your family is so nurturing and so fulfilling; yes it is tiring and of course you might need some help cleaning after but that is a human thing to be tired. A woman that cannot cook is lacking in my opinion, because how would you cook for your child if you have any? How would you take care of your household? How will you cook for your husband? And I know what some feminist are thinking when someone says « you need to cook for your husband » they’re thinking how wrong society is for prepping women to learn how to take care of a man! What is so wrong about that?! Why can’t I take great pride in making my man happy by cooking for him? I do love to cook, and I have been cooking a lot more this year instead of ordering takeouts. I feel happy when I try new recipes, although I solely cook for myself but when I do share my food with others I have not gotten any complaints ( mostly they may say it’s too spicy because I love hot pepper lol but yeah that’s it)
Cooking is beautiful and more women should do it!
2024-01-20T14:48:50+01:00
2024-01-20T13:59:07+01:00
2024-01-20T01:33:21+01:00
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Hair.
True story !
My mom loves my hair so much that she doesn’t want me to straighten it, add hair extensions braids, or a wig! She’s obsessed with my hair. She loves looking at it over FaceTime she cannot wait to run her fingers through it herself! She really does love my hair and she loves it even more when I dressed up with my Afro.
2024-01-19T15:30:52+01:00
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"what does being single have to do with my beauty? why are you shocked when a pretty girl says she's single? beauty doesn't determine whether or not you should be lonely. I can be alone and not feel lonely, I could be surrounded by people and still be the loneliest person on earth. the fact that I am single doesn't mean I failed at life, the fact that no one has ever been brave enough to confess their love to me doesn't mean no one was never in love with me at some point. "
2024-01-19T13:45:01+01:00
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Not the one.
« I’m beginning to think love was made for certain people, but not for me.
For people who live the way I do, it’s much uncommon for us to find love.
It’s not my beauty that excites you, it’s not my figure that make you fall for me, no it’s the way I am never around yet you still long for me even though you know I will never be there. Yet when I appear nothing happens!
Don’t worry you’re not breaking my heart when you’re with her,
I expect you to be with someone unlike me who feels better alone, I am aware not many people feel this way.
You are not breaking my heart when you tell her you love her,
I never believe that you loved me.
You are not breaking my heart when you touch her, you never touched me in a way that made me feel loved.
You are not breaking my heart when you dial her number, you never called me anyway.
You can live your life; pain has known me the moment I left my mother’s womb.
Sorrows consumed me at a very young age that now I don’t know how to be happy.
You are not breaking my heart when you say you don’t love me, they never do.
But yet they still look for me as if there’s something there.
I write the way I bleed, chaotic, messy, emotional, unrequited, unloved but prideful. »