No bread will ever be baked from this dough

2023-11-13T17:15:25+01:00

Toxic masculinity.

Publié par Gaelle.R 13 Novembre 2023 à 05:15 PM

Sassy men are the opposite of toxic masculinity men who treats women like property or a mean to an end. Those men who treats women like they own them often times have mommy issues; I cannot deal with men who think they can take over my life and dictate everything that I do. take Keke Palmer at the moment, she is dealing with a toxic man with the same traits as Andrew Tate. That man is so abusive, he kicked her, slapped and humiliated her in front of the world. Those men literally did not have a great relationship with their mother, so they treat the women they are in a relationship with like property and what do you do to something that you own? you use it whenever you want without a care in the world because it's there to make you feel good. The book I was reading this weekend touched based on that, the main character solan was in a relationship with a man who would have sex with her when she was sleeping and when she didn't feel like it. She cried the whole time and he didn't stop because he just wanted to feel good even when she was hurting! that is rape!! even if the woman doesn't say stop herself because she could be scared but there are signs! : she could be crying, pushing you off of her and stay stiff all of those show that she does not want to and a man who's compassionate will apologize and stop. The likes of Andrew Tate think that is okay for a man to cheat but it is way worse when a woman does it! it is the same if you ask me, there is no difference.

I love sassy men because they express themselves right away, they don't try to hide any feelings, like show me how disgusted you are! why do you think I love Mbappe so much? he is the king of sassy lol he has so many faces expression and he is SOOO soft and expressive with everything that he is doing. Toxic men think that showing your emotion is girly but no it shows that you are confident, and you are not afraid to express yourself however ways that may present.

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2023-11-13T14:49:30+01:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 13 Novembre 2023 à 02:49 PM

more controversial opinion.

I love stirring the pot.

1. As a man if you cannot pay for the first date or open the car door for me, don't bother inviting me out. On the first date I need you to butter me up, open all the doors for me, pull out the chair for me before I sit down, don't let me pick up anything. Treat me like a baby who has never done anything in her life, matter of fact feed me! nah I'm playing well unless he's into that kind of stuff then please do it lol I love me some spice.

2. I am not looking for an intellectual but as a man if you don't read anything please stay away from me; I am always reading something and if reading books bother you then you won't like me. By the fact I stayed home this weekend reading because I bought a great book on friday, I had to literally cancel all my plans to finish it lol, but you know what I would rather stay home with a great book than to hang out with people who drain me.

3. if you invite me and I don't show up know that I felt bad, but I will do it again. I am sorry there's just something about me lately that hates hanging out with people that I am not comfortable with, if I hang out with you I either like you, curious about you or I had no choice but to be there.

4. I don't like meeting new guys, I'm exhausted! if I haven't met my soulmate it's going to be a problem because I don't feel like getting to know anyone new. I don't want to talk about what I like or talk about what my favorite color is... please leave me alone. I blocked a guy yesterday after I was on the phone with him, he did not have my number he called me off of Instagram; I don't give out my number for nothing even if you put a gun to my head because I know I will block you once a get tired so why give you, my digits? I just hate it when I have to explain to someone the things that I don't like, and I have to explain my sense of humour because it is dry and dark plus I am very sarcastic so I will have to tell you "Oh no that's a joke I am not serious" like no I will not actually " slam my hand in a car door it is just to emphasize a point" one time I was joking about something embarrassing that happened to someone and I said " OMG I would literally hang myself if something like that happened to me" he was so concern he was like noo please don't do that I was like " No I love life I am just joking" after I felt like a sick minded person like why did I say that! but someone who doesn't take me seriously would know that I didn't mean it.

5. You either love me or you are just indifferent. I've never met anyone who hated me or maybe they hid it well lol but I've met people who were jealous of me so I am not sure if that's the equivalent of someone hating me but anyway, the jealousy was so uncalled for like I am struggling just like you what do you mean you want my life? like girl take it at this point I am just surviving lol

6. I love sassy men. Google sassy men apocalypse and you will get an idea of what I mean by that lol. I love me some lighthearted fun, like please Gossip with me like one of the girls. Don't act like a thug around me, I hate that stuff, be masculine but be soft at the same time. I don't mind if you cry with me, I will love you even more, show me emotions I love all of that stuff.

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2023-11-13T00:29:49+01:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 13 Novembre 2023 à 12:29 AM

Controversial opinion and things about me.

Those are just what I think, you don’t have to agree.

Hair. A man telling me how to do my hair and what to do with my hair is very toxic let me explain as a black girl I don’t have straight hair. I have an Afro and it is time consuming as well as expensive to keep it beautiful and moisturized. Now what I choose to do with it should not lower or increase my value because hair is just hair. I am so much more than my hair; if a man decides not to approach me because I either have an Afro or a wig on my head then good. Stay away from me because that’s exactly that type of negativity I don’t want in my life. I never cared if a man would love my hairstyle, I do my hair the way that I want to do it. If your love for me relies on what my hair looks like I don’t want it because I could be bald tomorrow, then what?
Hugs. I don’t like being touched unexpectedly it triggers my past traumas and I don’t have to explain what I went through but if I tell you “no I don’t want a hug” do not force yourself on me! I said no just respect my words. I am not playing hard to get I just don’t want a hug from you. There are a very few people I accept hugs from, and those people should feel very special because I trust them, and I feel good in their arms hence why I let it happen. Just don’t automatically hug me when you see me if I don’t initiate it or if I haven’t told you that I love getting hugs from you.
Free spirit. I am in fact a free spirit, I may not come across as that because I look very quiet but don’t be fooled. I love to observe people and make my own conclusion about them. I am very stubborn, not many people can get through me. I will do exactly what I want to do and often times I learn the hard way. I don’t like being told what to do in an arrogant tone, just be nice about it and I’ll listen.
Quiet. I hate it when people say “why are you so quiet” the truth is if I am quiet around you it’s because I don’t trust you or we are not friends. I am not quiet! I can be really annoying and goofy, I talk a lot and I am so sorry for those people I feel comfortable around because they always have to tell me to chill lol. I get excited around the people I love because I don’t get to hang out with them all the time so when I finally get to see them I get so excited! I love the people who gets excited with me those people are just like me they love to talk, they have a lot of energy and they are my close friends. I hate it when my friends tell me to shut up because truth is I am always ready to drop everything and cut off anyone who doesn’t appreciate me. My real friends love me for who I am and I will always love them.

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2023-11-11T16:31:29+01:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 11 Novembre 2023 à 04:31 PM

my book for the week end. ;)

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2023-11-11T14:09:40+01:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 11 Novembre 2023 à 02:09 PM

Télécharger « Recording About Men.mp3 »

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2023-11-11T02:52:47+01:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 11 Novembre 2023 à 02:52 AM

Q&A

What am I most afraid of?

Losing my parents. Especially my mom; she’s my everything and I rely on her for my survival.

The bond between mother and a child is something that most people would not comprehend if they haven’t been in both the mother and the child’s life. Me and my mom has been through a lot together and she is my first and only love at the moment. One other thing is losing control, not being able to have a choice on how I want to live my life or feeling like I am trapped in something I can’t get out of.

Would I date someone who hates cats?

Uhm I don’t think I would only because I know I own 3 cats and it wouldn’t be fair to him to force my cats on him. And it would not be fair to me to let go of something that I love. But I think when you love someone you will compromise for them; maybe he and I will find a common ground. But to be clear I love cats with all my heart and I would be miserable if I can’t ever own a cat. I would love him but some part of me would still be longing for something that I can’t have.

Do I still love Michael Jackson?

I know I haven’t talked about him much these past few months but I still listen to him on a regular basis. Of course I love Michael! And I will probably love him until I die. I think he was the sweetest person alive; I love his voice it so smooth and small… I don’t like men with big voices that kind of scares me ( it’s part of my childhood traumas I guess but I won’t get into that)

in all of my cats which one would I keep or give away?

I hope i am never in that position but of course pixie is my favorite but Archie is my first baby and I can’t see anyone else taking care of him. I love him wayyyy too much and Selie is my baby girl, I am already obsessed with her.

Do I need makeup to feel pretty?

I’m going to say so thing completely shocking but I feel more beautiful without makeup especially when my skin is clear. There’s a glow that I get in the winter that no makeup in the world can recreate.

What do I hate about relationships?

Ive never been in one but I hate the fact that at any given moment he or I can change our mind and just break up.

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2023-11-11T00:53:56+01:00

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Publié par Gaelle.R 11 Novembre 2023 à 12:53 AM

Another journal entry, but I thought this is very poetic. You. When I am not with you I am the happiest girl in the world but as soon as my eyes meets your eyes I get lost in them and I want to escape; I want to only be found by you but you’re looking at other possibilities. Every time I give you my heart you shatter it into million pieces. You make me hate being stared at because every time you look at me I fall harder for you. I want to run away and leave my heart behind. My tears are tired of drowning my face at the thought of you. What made you think I would be okay after you left? Now you won’t love me again. You make me cry more than the one before. I want to rip my heart out and watch all your love pour out of me. I want to stay away from you but my heart is calling your name. I want to kiss you and hit you at the same time for breaking my heart more than once. You don’t see me even when you look at me you can’t see the real me. All I want is to call out your name; I want to make you happy but all you do is make me cry.

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2023-11-10T23:06:23+01:00