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As a woman, I hold a lot of power and the minute I start to realize this the more confident I became! Once I start seeing myself as a woman and not a girl everything changed!
As a woman, I can bear children and carry a whole human inside of me for 9 months and that is a big deal; I was blessed to create babies and men as well, but a mother has a very tight bond with their child and that is just extraordinary. Now we got part how a woman is powerful out the way let's get into it.
(*Men can’t have children without us women and that is just powerful.)
I mentioned before that I started watching the wizard Liz and she has changed my mentality on a lot of things. I used to chase men, do what they would want me to do, expect them to pick me... You could say I was a little" pick me" because I wanted to be chosen but not anymore because now I am the one making the choice. I am the price and therefore if he wants me in his life he will have to work for it not the other way around; he will need to get past the wall that I've put up and I admit it will not be an easy task because it took me years to get here. I have cried a lot of tears to become the strong woman that I am today, but I want to be treated well and cared for.
- before I always wanted to be the "strong woman" and I am but men see that as a way "Oh she is strong I can put her through a lot and she will stick by me" No I am soft in a relationship, I expect you to take care of me just like I will do the same for you. I am your little baby, spoil me because I spoil myself and if you don't then someone else will.
to be confident:
- stop caring about what people think of you: just live for yourself and do things that make YOU feel good; stop caring if other people will care about what you do. At the end of the day all you have is yourself so make sure you make the decisions that are best for you. If you make a mistake trust me it's not the end of the world, be kind to yourself and learn from what you did wrong. You are human so therefore you are allowed to make mistakes, Just learn from them and don't be too disappointed if you fail at something just work hard and try again.
- believe in yourself: trust that you can achieve anything you put your mind to and stay focused on the end results; keep working hard at whatever you do. once you start achieving your goals you feel so much better about yourself for example it could be to talk to more people or socialize more and once you are excelling at the things you always wanted to you will feel a boost in your self-esteem.
- take care of yourself: always stay clean, shower always, use body scrub if it won't irritate your skin for a glow, always keep your nails clean, and work out for the body that you want.
- smile at people, when you have an inviting energy people will feel at ease to talk to you and you will attract a lot more people.
- everything comes from your mind whatever you feed it will have control over your actions, If you think you are not beautiful then your mind will make you believe it... You will not feel at ease when people tell you how amazing you look. As I said believe in yourself because everything starts with you.
- read a lot so that you will have a variety of words to chose from when you are speaking or writing to people. Cultivate your mind, and start exploring new topics so that you can engage in any conversation. Buy books when you can and read them on your free time; get into a book club online and participate in the discussions. Trust me reading is the best exercise for your brain ❤️ you can read with me when I recommend books here I usually say where you can get it.
let's do a trick...
If you are a girl and you want to feel confident here's a few things that I do.
- as a black girl when I want to feel powerful in my afro I look at movies with a girl in a beautiful afro like Napily Ever After on Netflix (is a good movie) black panther always makes me feel powerful! Wonder Woman too :) How to get away with murder is a big one because Viola Davis is just soooo amazing!
- I get in touch with my feminine side, I put music on and dance around the house. Dance to make me feel sexy and sensual, I won't dance like that in public but it's great to feel sexy because that will boost your confidence and make you appreciate your body a lot more.
- take pictures! Get a tripod and start taking whatever pictures you want, you don't have to show anyone. the goal here is to feel beautiful in your body.
- if you feel great you will look great, When I feel good I look so beautiful because I exude graceful energy so everything is done effortlessly but when I don't feel good I feel so unsure about myself and I don't know what to do with my body. The goal is to feel good in your body.
