If you’re a black girl and you’re labeled an “Oreo” this is for you.
The term “Oreo” is highly offensive to me and the meaning behind it is basically a black girl who acts like a white girl. To me that’s racist, is there a way a certain group of people should act? I would say no. Each and every one of us have different personalities, different background, different interests, different experiences and all of those things make us who we are. We can’t all be the same! Growing up in Haiti was so different for me because race didn’t matter we were all Haitians, I had a closed friend who was Dominican but we spoke in creole so to me she was Haitian lol. I had a different upbringing compare to some of my friends who weren’t Jehovah witnesses. I grew up in a very religious household, I wasn’t allowed to swear, watch certain movies in the family room, I didn’t go out much yes I grew up very sheltered. The only place I would go in Haiti was school, meetings, field service and hangouts with other kids who were Jehovah witnesses and home. There are a lot of things I didn’t do growing up, now as an adult some other adults might say “wow she doesn’t know much about life” no I didn’t date growing up because I wasn’t allowed to and my mom watched me like a hawk. No I didn’t sneak out to go to parties and get drunk. I still had a very fun childhood surrounded by books, my friends and making cute memories with my family.
Now as an adult, I don’t say profanities when I speak. I don’t talk about sex openly, I can barely wear a crop top in public. Some people might labeled me as a prude but I know I can let myself be free sexually with the person I trust. I don’t need to swear to prove that I am a black woman. Just because you have an extensive vocabulary, you love hiking, or you listen to Taylor swift or any white people songs doesn’t mean you’re not black! I listen to all kinds of songs, some days are all about reggaeton, classical, konpa, jazz, pop, rock, Indian, Arabic, French… but once I put on a white girl song I’m trying to be white?
Just because I eat a salad for lunch from sweet greens and not Mac Donald’s I’m trying to be a white girl? Just because I shop at Whole Foods, Trader Joe’s or Costco’s I’m trying to be white !? I think it’s ignorant! I can love whatever I want, I can do whatever I want, I can eat whatever food I like. God created me to live the way I want! I have a choice. I think it’s offensive to label a black girl a white girl just because her interest are different than what you think typical black girls love. Let me just say rap culture is not a good representation of black women! Not all of us talk like sexy Red, Nicki Minaj, Glorilla and other black woman rappers. Some of us don’t swear, some of us are modest. Not saying any group is better than the other we were all created with a choice. If you want to walk around in a crop top and short skirt that’s on you, but don’t criticizing me because I wore a normal shirt with jeans because I’m not criticizing you either. Let me live my life the way that I see fit and you should live your live unapologetically.
There’s nothing wrong with me. Yes I love books, yes I will call the manager and file a complaint if I’m treated unfairly, yes I leave reviews on yelp, yes I would rather stay home than go to a night club and grind on sweaty dudes, yes I’m a virgin, yes I've never dated anyone. Not all black girls should be labeled sluts, just because I’m black doesn't mean I’m hopping on different men every night lol… that’s a bad stereotypes! I see black women in a different light. I think we are beautiful, cultured, smart, strong, resilient, soft and powerful. I hate that black women rappers think all we care about are sex, getting money, making men pay for us…. Like dude some of us want to be lawyers, doctors, researchers, scientists, writers, biologists, engineers. I don’t care what people think of me as a black girl because most of the time they’re wrong because they see me and they immediately put me in a box and I could care less about their boxes.
One experience I had as a black girl (this one is a little graphic but I don’t mind sharing), my doctor asked me if was sexually active and I said no (I was 22 at the time not that anything has changed but for some context). Then he ask me if I wanted to get a Pap smear, and I said well I don’t see the point in getting one since I’m not sexually active. He then said you may not be now but you were at some point, like excuse me? Do you know something I don’t? I said no I haven’t. So he asked me with a stoned face so you’re a virgin and I said yes. He laughed, yes he laughed. Then he advise me to get a Pap smear, which I said ok because I wasn’t about to argue with him. He said when we do the Pap smear then we’ll see if you’re truly a virgin ( that could have been a lawsuit ! He was a Haitian doctor and he was out of line many times) when we did the Pap smear he used a big maybe it was a regular speculum thinking I was lying but when I was in so much pain and the speculum couldn’t fit because duhhhh I’m a virgin dude. So he asked the nurse to bring an extra small speculum! After the Pap smear he apologized and he said sorry I didn’t believe you it’s rare to see a girl like you a virgin. Actually no! There are many black girls and white girls my age who are virgins… it doesn’t matter what race we are we have a choice with our bodies we can choose to wait for marriage if we want.
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