A little reminder that When you get married this person has a lot of power over you, more than you realize. That person has the power to tell the doctor how to proceed if you can’t. Let that sink in. Do you trust your partner to make serious life altering decisions on your behalf?
Honestly If you cannot trust that person to be your emergency contact, then simple don’t marry them!
You need someone you have complete trust in. Not just someone who can fold you like a beach chair, someone with a beautiful jawline, 6’4, beautiful face, text back quick but someone who will call the funeral home when your parents passed away and you are too emotional to Do it. You need someone who will hold you in your dark times, someone who will be there when you’re crying at 3 am while the baby is screaming in the background, someone who still finds you hot in an adult diaper after you have just finished given birth. Someone who can spend 11 hours at the hospital with you because you’re sick or your parents are sick. Someone who will carry you and support you through hardships like a miscarriage or infertility. Love is so superficial nowadays even if someone of us hate to admit it but physical attributes seems to matter more than actual love! Chemistry and sexual tension are not love!
Love is commitment, a constant need to make someone’s life better, a deep desire to be around someone because their presence brings you peace. When your heart is beating fast my dear you better run! Love should not give you anxiety it should make you feel whole without the constant need to perform to keep someone interested.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment and it should never be taken lightly. You need someone you trust to lead you, not a guy with the biggest muscles but the guy with the biggest heart who’s kind and prioritized you. Until I find all of this I am more than happy to stay single with my 2 beautiful cats.
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