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2024-11-27T17:07:15+01:00
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2024-11-26T00:42:47+01:00
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I like my man super low-key like barely on earth
2024-11-24T17:28:15+01:00
2024-11-23T03:53:49+01:00
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Take a page in my book when dating your man:
- I am a different breed, I am fine without a man. I want a man for different reasons but I am fine without him.
These are the things that are none of your business. While you’re dating him focus on you, keep living your life as if nothing has changed yes you love him but don’t be obsessed with him. Have your own life, your own hobbies, your own interest, your own friends. Don’t be a puppy following him around everywhere he goes that’s embarrassing. Be a strong woman next to your man.
- Be self centered; there’s a difference between selfish and self centered. When you’re self centered you’re willing to focus on you and to better yourself. You’re willing to put yourself first if the relationship becomes toxic. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who knows her worth. Keep your same dream and aspirations don’t change your mind because you start dating, keep your goals ! That’s attractive it shows how motivated and driven you are.
- What’s none of your business are: his Instagram followers, the pages that he follows and the pictures that he likes. If he’s looking at someone while you’re out with him that’s none of your business focus on you, don’t keep a blind eye because believe a man when he says something and watch his actions to know where you stand. Men can tell when you’re worried about his every move and that makes him feel like he’s on a pedestal and you have to stop doing that. When he’s focus on someone else, focus on you let him be. When he sees dang! Look at her she doesn’t even go crazy let me see what’s up.
- Stop trying to figure out where he’s at, why he’s not coming home. Pull back it’s none of your business remember you can’t force a man into loving you or into giving you all the attention you need. He needs to realize it not you.
- Let him chase you. If he’s not chasing me he will not hear from me, I don’t care how much I care about him, if he doesn’t care to find out how I’m doing then he’s not worth it. I’m amazing if you want me then find me. I don’t have to beg for anything, if he doesn’t chase me and doesn’t reach out then he was never mine in the first place. It’s alright because it’s not a big of a loss. What’s meant to be for me will never miss me.
2024-11-22T05:08:37+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
On Sunday I spoke about the woman who was sexually abused by her husband as well as her 2 and 4 years old daughters. I have some opinions…
First let me just say what she is going through is horrible! And I am so sad that a woman can go through this with her kids. She suffered a lot of horrible things under the hands of this monster but could she have prevented this? There’s no doubt that she cannot change what happened, sadly what’s done is done but diving back into her old videos about how she met her monstrous husband triggered me. She said in video that she met her husband on a dating site after her sister encouraged her to start dating after being with her first husband whom she had 2 or 3 children with. When she met her now husband she was watching a woman name sheraseven who encouraged women to cheat on a man who’s not taking care of them this woman said and I quote “ if you’re paying 50%of the bills I am telling you to cheat on that man and find you a man who can take care of you 100%!” With a woman like that in her ears she set out to find herself a rich man so that she can become a “trophy wife” she said she went on the first date with her husband he immediately asked her to be his girlfriend (red flag number 1 because what do you mean?! You don’t even know her! What is your motive asking her to be exclusive to you?) then on the first week of meeting that man, she allowed him to meet her kids and hang out with them (red flag number 2 what kind of sick person let à complete stranger around their kids? That’s how kids get molested and get coerced into doing bad things) then they stopped talking for a while (red flag number 3 that should’ve tell her all she needed to know because a man who was all about you at first then stopped is a sign that he’s not the one, he doesn’t know what he wants or his intentions aren’t pure) she then started seeing someone else and she even moved in with him with all her kids from her previous marriage (red flag number 4 like girl slow down ugh) while she was with that man, she broke up with him because he wasn’t taking care of her as much as she would’ve liked. A day after breaking up with that man, her now husband contacted her. She told him everything (red flag number 5, keep a little mystery! You don’t owe anyone you just met any explanation you just giving them all the ways they can get you or worse mistreat you and he did) he said and I quote “ those are my boys I want to take care of all of you” that sounded good to her ears so then she said “ I need a place to stay” (red flag number 6 that’s begging! She could’ve went back home to her family or I don’t know get a job! ) then he said you’re not coming to live with me as my girlfriend but as my wife and immediately they start talking about marriage (red flag number 7 MARRIAGE! Girl you just met him) she went out and bought herself a ring ! Ugh! Girl desperate much? Anyway (red flag number 8 buying yourself a ring after you just broke up with your ex to go be with another man while having 3 children without a place to stay is insane ! Like girl get your priorities straight) then a week later they were married and we know what happened next…
My thoughts…
She spent barely one year alone after her divorce which I suppose it was right around the time she started watching sheraseven because she claimed that woman changed her life! Sure she did but for the worse. Then she just started dating again, (to find a rich man I suppose) which is fine but why bring your date to meet the kids. As a single mother my mom never brought any man around me, even if she loved someone else who wasn’t my father I never knew because she was willing to sacrifice her dating life to raise me ( not all mothers have to do this but I want you to see how sacred it is to allow the person your are dating to be around your child) she didn’t know this man enough! A week cannot tell you everything you need to know about someone. She let him talked her into marrying him without the foundation of a relationship! She wanted to be taken care of so bad that she did not once stop to think “uhm this is moving too fast I need to get to know this man more before bringing my kids into the mix” she was a selfish mother for letting this man into the lives of her children without making sure he was a good man first. I feel bad for her because she didn’t have much experience in dating at all, she had her first child at 17 and got married young with her first husband, then she jumped right into another marriage with this monster.
She kept glamorizing herself as a trophy wife while she was being abused and not once did she talked about the cons of having a rich man taking care of you. Having a man with lots of money and power taking care of you is demeaning ! You have no voice, you do whatever he tells you to do because he is the breadwinner God forbid he’s also arrogant and a narcissist! Those men sleep around with multiple women and you might think well at least I got the ring and he’s taking care of me then boom you get diagnosed with HIV or worse aids ! Because men like that do not care about your health, they sleep with anyone because they have money they think the world is at their feet. She forgot to say all of this before she discovered what her husband was doing to her kids.
Being a man’s trophy wife is not something to glamorize! What does a trophy do! Nothing! They just stand there and look pretty. She was teaching women how to get the ring meanwhile she begged for hers… sigh. She has a lot of growing up to do because she is a mother! She needs to do a much better job at protecting her babies. Broadcasting her kids trauma on YouTube was a bad idea because she told the whole world about her kids trauma now everybody knows! What if her kids didn’t want to share this when they’re older !? Well too late now more than 2 millions people already saw the video and guess what she did after!? She created a go fund me! Ugh I’m beginning to think that this might be a scheme! But why would she get on camera and say all this to ruin that man’s life if it wasn’t true!? Ugh social media is a weird place to be. But watching women like sheraseven who encourage women to get money from men and to only date rich men are truly miserable! Imagine dating someone solely for money! What a miserable life! You don’t even love that man the slightest ! The sight of him doesn’t even send shivers down your spine!
I hope this lady get her life together and makes better decision for the sake of her kids. I hope she’s not looking for the next rich man to take care of her and her 4 children.
2024-11-19T20:04:50+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
Questions
- Candle lit dinner or picnic date?
Candle lit dinner all the way because I don’t like sitting on grass, especially for a date (I’m already nervous imagine me on a grass with my allergies flaring up! If it’s during the spring forget it he will think I have the flu for sneezing so much) I love fancy things!
- Are you jealous?
I am very protective! If I consider you mind, and I love, you I will go above and beyond. I know how much I am able to love which is why I don’t take that word lightly until I’m sure oh wait that’s not the question! Uhm yes I am jealous lol! Well not too bad but enough that I notice everything. I am fine with my man to having girls he’s friends with, but I need him to have boundaries and to keep me as his one and only. I like knowing other girls want my man, but they can’t have him lol.
- Favorite flowers ?
Any purple flowers or white roses :)
- how many dates have you been on this year?
Ugh, can I let you in a little secret. After my dad passed away, I felt so numb and so alone that I went out with people I won’t even talk to now that I came to my senses. I wanted company, and I feel bad because of that, I should’ve stayed alone. I went on a lot of dates but none that matters
2024-11-18T16:50:29+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
I will share my work out from now on, yes it's a lot but to me it's just enough
work out plan for today
warm up: 15 mns
jog for 10 minutes.
leg swings, hip circles, jumping jacks (5 minutes)
Glute workout routine: isolation work out on monday 1.30 hr
1. squats (3 sets of 12 reps with weights)2 dumbbells 40 lbs weight=80
2. rdl's ( 5 sets of 20 with weights each leg) 2 dumbbells 40 lbs weight=80
3. Bulgarian squats (6 sets of 10 each leg) 1 dumbbell 40 lbs weight
4. sumo squats (6 sets of 20)2 dumbbells 40 lbs weight=80
5. B- Stance Rdl on the wall ( 5 sets of 15 each leg) 1 dumbbell 40 lbs
6. good mornings on cable machine ( 4 sets of 20) 95 weight
7. leg kick back on glute machine (4 sets of 10 each leg on 90 weight)
8. step ups (4 sets of 20 each leg ) 30 lbs weight kettle bell
stretch
ab work out
1. Russian twist (4 sets of 12)
2. crunches ( 3 sets of 10)
3. plank 1 minute
finish it off:
stair master 30 minutes
2024-11-17T19:35:31+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
Mistreatment in the marriage.
The topic I am about to discuss is very delicate please read with caution.
I am not married nor have I ever been married but I have friends who are married and I wish them all the happiness in the world with their spouses. Today when I got home from the meeting I watch a very disheartening video about a woman who left her husband because something horrible happened. The woman has 4 children I believe two girls both 2 and 4 years old and she has two older boys.
She’s been married for quite some time and I must say she’s very beautiful! So educated, so well spoken and well dressed. She used to always make videos about how to attract a man, how to get the ring… I never watch those videos because I always think that they’re useless. Everyone has a different experience with love, I am extremely weird lol so what will work on another woman will not work for me, I’ve never even cared to date anyone yet. Back to the story this is not about my boring dating life, she made a video 2 days ago explaining to her audience why she has been absent for so long and how she left her husband a month ago. Before this video I have never seen her on my screen but after that video I went and scan through all the things she used to post. She was very proud of her “rich husband” but it wasn’t all roses and flowers as she made it seemed. She explain that the man raped her 4 times in just a couple of months into their marriage! I was enraged! Why are men so cruel?! This is why I hate men! Well not all men but some men are horrible. She said even after that happened she kept trying to move past it ( I will speak on this later but I must get through her story) she then proceeded to say one day while she was changing her 4 year old daughter she realize her daughter had red marks in her genitalia and she was sensitive down there immediately she knew someone touched her daughter so she politely asked “baby did someone touched you” the little girl answered “it was daddy” immediately she felt her world came crashing down but she advised her daughter not to say anything to her father, because she had to wait for him to get home with her other children because he was picking them up from school. When they got home she gathered all her kids and she told her husband that she was going shopping, then she went straight to the police. The police then escorted her to the hospital with the kids to examine the kids when she got there she found out her husband was touching both of her little girls ( ugh I’m crying writing this) what a monster. I assumed her husband was arrested but she didn’t say if he was.
My thoughts
As the lady said she herself went through something similar as a child, she was abused and she knows all the signs so she was very strict with her kids but she forgot to
look inside her home because while she was sleeping the monster was hurting her kids. I will be strict with my kids when I have them, especially girls. I will not allowed my kids to sleep over at anyone’s house, I will not allow them to sit on any strangers or men’s lap even if I know you my kid can sit on a chair she doesn’t need to be on your lap. Do not kiss my kid on the lips, do not hold my kid under her dress, do not touch her hair or her face if you’re a man. I’m sorry I just don’t want any man whom I don’t trust around my daughter. Poor lady I feel her, but she should’ve seen the red flag in the beginning when he raped her. It’s so easy to say but that’s your spouse you supposed to satisfy their needs but she’s not a sex slave! She doesn’t always have to be at your disposal. Some people are less sexually stimulated than others, if they say no then it’s NO don’t force it! If they’re sleeping don’t try anything because that’s rape! Remember this act needs to be consensual whether married or not.
2024-11-14T03:48:51+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
Blood line by Lynda La Plante
This is the current book I am reading, and I am very invested. I was getting tired of authors like Colleen Hoover who has an overly erotic type of writing. This book is more so crime fiction, since I am into true crimes I figured why not dive into it.
I am on chapter 7 as I am writing this but by tomorrow, I should be on my way to chapter 9 or 10. The main character Anna is a detective who just lost her fiancé, she’s refusing to take time off. She wants to keep
Working, right now she’s investigating a case of a missing man. At first she didn’t have much evidence to classify this case as a murder case, she was eventually thinking the man simply vanished because he was trying to run away from his current life.
But the man has been missing for 8 weeks and he was only reported missing 2 weeks later by his girlfriend and father. Her and her partner has been around asking neighbors, and co workers about the man , he was described as a quote on quote nice guy, he was always to himself never raised his voice and avoid altercations at all costs but was he hiding something?
What about his girlfriend why is she nonchalant about the whole thing isn’t she worried? Why does she quickly ask for a lawyer when they start questioning her?
Anna just discovered new evidence in the case that could suggest a murder took place in the apartment the man shared with his girlfriend, she found blood stains behind the bed which suggest that the victim was hit with a blunt object which would suggest evidence of foul play. It looked like the victim was lying on the floor or at edge of the bed while blood splattered on the floor.
To be honest I am not sure if the girlfriend killed him, to be honest she doesn’t fit the description of a killer. She owns a hair salon, but she is very clean! Which is why when the detectives entered the apartment they smelled a strong odor of bleach and immediately Anna thought what was she hiding? Why did she had to clean every surface ? Now that they are treating the apartment as a murder scene the girlfriend has to stay somewhere else.
I think : the guy is not a nice guy at all, I think he killed someone in the apartment and cleaned it up before the girlfriend got home and he ran away. I also think he was gay! lol I don’t know why but people described him as someone who’s super clean! But he’s a mechanic! I don’t know it’s just my thought. I do believe that he’s dead but if he’s not dead he’s badly injured somewhere. It’s just a matter of time before Anna finds a body but I don’t think it will be the missing man’s body…
I’ll keep reading, it’s too interesting. I love this author’s style of writing, she doesn’t linger on useless details ! She gets straight to the point and everything is clear.
2024-11-12T18:56:56+01:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
Teresa
A lot has happened! And yes, I am still watching this show lol I can’t look away it’s like a boat about to crash and I have to see when it does!
But I want to talk about one specific character today especially because I feel like I won’t see him as much on the show anymore. His name is Martin and for the love of God I hope I meet a man like him! He is so attentive, so understanding, so caring, so polite, so beautiful inside and out! Ouhhhh I love this guy in the show. At first, I didn’t like him because he was always joking around but after a while he made me laugh and chuckle!
He's dating Aurora on the show, she’s the girl with the most beautiful smile. They are great together but let’s not forget Aurora always loved Mariano since high school, she told Martin about this, but he said he was willing to date aurora and help her forget Mariano. At first, I thought that was a dumb move because the girl is clearly in love with someone else but after a while I realize Martin is the person she needs! Normally Aurora would be sad and always following Mariano around to make sure that he doesn’t do anything stupid with Teresa. Especially when Mariano was crying because Teresa left him for Arturo, aurora was there holding Mariano ! They are best friends. She loves Mariano so much! And it pains her to see him in pain because of Teresa.
Martin stayed by Aurora’s side he made her laugh, but she could never fall in love with him, she loved Martin, but she was not in love with him! In the episode I am in Aurora is about to get married with Martin but Martin walked in on Aurora kissing Mariano which I knew they both loved each other, it was just not the right time. But immediately after the kiss Aurora stopped Mariano because she is a good person she said « I can’t do this to Martin I am about to marry him, I doubt that he will marry me after I tell him what just happened! Martin is a wonderful man he makes me happy and you are still in love with Teresa I don’t want to wait around for you » Martin heard everything and after he met with Aurora at one of his restaurants and he tells her « I want to thank you for bringing so much light into my life and for all the beautiful moments we spent together but I am setting you free » ugh! What an Angel! He didn’t argue with her but gently he lets her go. He is so sweet and so gentle. Although he loves her and no one can deny that but he was willing to let go and be happy even if that meant with someone else! That’s true love!
I will talk about Aurora and Mariano struggle love later.