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When something is for you, it’s never lost. It will come back to you.
2024-07-07T16:03:32+02:00
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2024-07-06T14:45:18+02:00
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Types of people I can’t stand !
Ugh. I don’t hate them I just can’t stand when they do these things.
- People who never answer their text. You’re not a celebrity I know you saw my text, I understand if you’re busy and you reply late but leaving my text sitting there for a few days is insane! You’re not even that cool just answer the damn text.
- People who talk loud during an important meeting. Gee does the speaker bore you? Can you leave the room to have that discussion. It’s obnoxious, rude, classless and disrespectful to the other people who want to listen to the speaker.
- People who touch me without my consent. I’ve said this 100 of times I don’t like being touched by random strangers or people I’m not too close with! Don’t hug me, don’t grab my waist I don’t know you! The people who can hug me know who they are. If you’re not on that list please stay away from my body.
- People who mistreat animals. You’re a psychopath I don’t care who you are ! If you beat an innocent dog or cat or any small animals there is a safe place for you in hell oh wait there’s no hell and I don’t even believe in hell but trust me you will be dealt with.
- People who touch my hair. If you don’t have my consent please don’t even touch my hair or any black women hair! It’s rude.
2024-07-05T12:35:51+02:00
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The story of Abigail.
Besides Esther’s story, Abigail’s story might be one of my favorite ones in the Bible. Abigail displayed grace, complete bravery, gentleness, understanding and empathy all the things that I strive to always have when I am dealing with a delicate situation.
When I was a little girl I read “my book of my Bible stories” hundreds of times over and over again. I remember my mom used to ask why do I always re-read that one book! Because I hated to read any book more than once but this one has always been my favorite! I told her it’s because all of the Bible stories are in there! And I love all of them!. You can find this book on jw. Org, recently while doing my personal study I read Abigail story with new eyes and I was amazed at her once again now that I am a young woman.
Let’s start from the beginning:
Abigail was married to Nabal and her husband had a lot of wealth and David and his men were protecting all of Nabal’s property with their presence. In return for all of their hard work David ask Nabal for provisions such as food for his army which David thought was an expected courtesy for protecting Nabal’s property. Nabal refused David’s request and even insulted David! Which showed how inconsiderate Nabal was since David was kind enough to give his army in order to protect his properties. Needless to say, David was furious immediately he started gathering his army to go confront Nabal. But Abigail was informed of the incoming attack and springs into action (she did not hesitate she knew she had to do something to protect her family! She knew saving lives was more important than to stroke her husband’s ego) quickly she assembled some gifts to appease David, but she does not inform her husband (because she knew how stubborn her husband was and telling him wouldn’t change a thing and he would probably get even more mad) once she loaded all of the provisions on all the donkeys she sent them off and follow behind them closely. She met with David herself instead of her husband, she took the responsibility of her husband’s brashness and lack of hospitality even though she had nothing to do with it! Her acting on behalf of her husband was more than making up for his failure. She could have sent the gift and not meet with David, but she wanted to recognize What David had done for her family, and she wanted to show gratitude. Abigail’s pleading for peace showed discernment and foresight!
David was amazed by her, and he applauded her good sense and quick thinking, recognizing that she kept him from violence and releases her back to her household in peace. The worst is over! Temper fizzles out and she has saved many lives! When Abigail returned home, she found her husband still feasting unaware that death came knocking on his door. She decided to leave him in ignorance until the morning. When she tells him what has happened, Nabal was shocked and within 10 days he died!
David hears about Nabal’s death, and he sends for Abigail to be his wife and Abigail agreed! Because of her actions she allowed David to become the next king! If David had killed Nabal in an act of anger never, would he had been the next ascendant to the throne.
Her story showed me:
- Saving lives is always more important than anything else even if that means offending some people.
- Acting quickly when danger is near is essential for survival imagine if she waited until the morning it would have been too late! Act quickly when you need to stop a dangerous situation.
- Apologizing for your spouse doesn’t mean you agree with what your spouse have done it shows how kind you are and you are willing to appease any situation your spouse may not be able to handle.
- Protecting someone you love often times means going against their wishes if you know it will protect them in the future.
- Being a woman means appeasing the tension with hospitality and with soft spoken words
- Never follow violence with violence
- Sometimes being the hero means apologizing and coming into an agreement
- Waiting until the tension subsides to have an honest conversation is always best.
2024-07-04T19:56:18+02:00
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Confidence.
The art of being confident is not something you can wake up one day and attain all at once it may take a while to fully get there. In your 20s you are finding yourself and discovering what you like, it may be hard for you to accept your flaws whether physically or mentally. It might take some time before you feel fully confident in who you are as a person but I am here to tell you that it is very possible for you to be 100% confident even if you are the most insecure person at the moment. You can change! You can become someone new! And with time you can fall in love with yourself.
In my early 20s I was very insecure about my body and very self aware of what people might be thinking about it eventually I did stop caring for the sake of my mental health. I had to put myself out of any environment where I didn’t feel welcome, I stopped talking to people who made weird comments about my body. With time I begin to love myself and I begin to see how beautiful I’ve always been ! It took me a while but today I can say I wouldn’t change anything and I love who I am. sure I can always work on myself wether it’s mentally by gaining more knowledge on all types of subjects or physically by going to the gym and eating the right food that will get me to where I want to be. I love my body and it took me a while to get here, going to the gym have helped me pushed myself past my limit and it has also helped me to feel more confident when I walk and improve my posture a little bit more. The moment you shut off all the outside noise and get a tunnel vision to where you want to go is the moment you truly take your power back and you begin to feel more confident in yourself each time you get closer to your goal.
Be gentle with yourself, surround yourself with positive people and always seek ways to better yourself never become stagnant in your growth. Cultivate your mind by reading and by being in any environment that will help you gain more knowledge in anything that you are interested in. Never close your mind to knew opportunities to learn something new, be more open to embrace different cultures, different languages or anything that is out there in nature.
2024-07-04T15:16:32+02:00
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Mean girls.
I’ve had my fair share with mean girls especially when I was younger and they would preyed on me and used me because I was just so nice. Eventually I grew thick skin and now I can spot them from miles away. For starters I always have one great friend I trust and that friend has great qualities! If you’re my friend just know you’re an amazing person and I love you dearly even if we don’t speak I always think about you and pray for you.
There are 2 types of mean girl:
- there’s one that will be nice to your face and then plot your downfall. This girl will turn your friends against you, and steal your man( but then again if anyone is able to take your man then good riddance you’ll be better without him). She will Take anything you like before you have a chance to get it and she will never share with you but then pretend she is doing everything for your own good. You will be blinded at first because she appears to be really nice but she’s not but instead she is envious of you.
- There’s one that will be mean to your face and be nice to everyone else you know, when you try to tell someone how mean she is they will not believe you because according to them she is “so nice”. Then for some reason you will be gaslit into believing you’re the problem when in reality she is just mean!
I know both types and I steer clear from those girls because those are not the type of girls to have great friendship with. I am really genuine and even if I don’t like you, I will not be rude to you if anything you might not know I don’t like you because I will always treat you with respect but you will definitely know that I don’t want to be friends. I will not initiate plans and I will never hang out with you willingly unless you happen to be out at the same time I am out with other people. I can spot genuine people like me and I can sense whether or not they have an ulterior motive.
I almost forgot!
- There’s the Jlo type if you’re on social media then you must know how everyone is finding how mean Jennifer Lopez is! Those girls like her are always in competition with pretty girls and they feel threaten if a girl is more attractive or more talented at something than them. For some reason those girls are extremely nice to men! If you’re a guy she will have no problem being nice to you! If you’re her friends she will somewhat be nice but not unless it benefits her! Those girls are obsessed with men’s approval and they really don’t like being friends with girls.
2024-07-03T15:19:33+02:00
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I keep telling some people that I am not fully introverted, but it doesn't seem to stick but for the 100 times and that's the last time I am going over this with anyone, they can decipher for themselves but don't be shocked when you realize how wrong you were!
I am an AMBIVERT meaning" I feel comfortable in social situations (minus the part where I get a brief panic attack but it won't take long before I get used to my surrounding) I can balance between outgoing and reserved behaviors (this one is tricky because when I am going through a depressive episode I am very reserved but when I am doing well you can see my true personality) essentially, an ambivert changes their behavior based on the situation they find themselves in" I can understand why some people if not most people do not believe that I am not an ambivert! trust me I get it and for the longest time I thought I was really introverted but I was just severely depressed! I am a very complex individual and it's not a straight line for me. I believe we all have a bit of both introverted and extroverted in ourselves but one of them is more pronounced, in my case my introverted is slightly more pronounced but that doesn't mean I don't like going out with my friends or that I love staying in my house a lot. If anything, I enjoy both and I can't live life without seeing my friends or without having some downtime alone for myself.
People will always put you in a box whether or not you believe you don't fit in that box! as long as you know who you are and what you like then that is all that matters. people have to put you in a box so that they can understand you better, but you don't have to live your life the way that others want you to live it. You can be whoever you want, you can evolve and change whenever you want! that's the beauty of being a human. You can choose how you want to live your life and you can choose who you allow in your life as well so please choose wisely.
2024-07-02T13:47:34+02:00
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real football lovers know edition:
- the rivalry between Argentina and Brazil have been dead for years since Pele, Maradona, Ronaldinho were no longer part of the team. Argentina is better with Messi but he's retiring, and Brazil is better with Neymar actually I am not sure! Neymar is a mess he is always getting injured and half the time he's not there.
- The rivalry between Barcelona and Real Madrid died when Cristiano left real Madrid and Messi left Barcelona! if anything Real Madrid is above everyone except (Manchester city)
- Manchester city is the best team in Europe with Real Madrid. Pep Guardiola is the best coach ever at man city and Carlo Ancelotti is also a great coach at Madrid, but his players make it all better at times I think Real Madrid is simply lucky, but Manchester city is pure hard work!
- No one can compare to Mbappe not even Haaland they are both Good, but they don't play the same! where you could compare Cristiano with Messi I don't see where that's apply here for Mbappe and Haaland they are not in the same level at all!! I want them to play together but I don't think that's going to happen.
- Cristiano is the definition "with hard work you can conquer the world" he showed everyone he could be better than Messi when no one believed he could. Messi is pure talent and Cristiano is pure hard work.
- Vinicius Jr is talented but with his temper he will not go far if he doesn't learn to control himself.
- Bellingham has the potential to become the best middle fielder in the world, he is a little rough around the edges, but he will get there.
- Xavi was a good coach at Barcelona, but his vision did not translate well, I kinda feel bad for him
- Psg will never win a champion's league trophy if they don't get new managers, they put players above the club and they don't make change when it's needed. Luis Enrique is the best thing that ever happened to PSG too bad he came when Messi, Neymar are no longer there and Mbappe was leaving. Actually, Neymar is not as good anymore, but he does still have talents... it's just I don't think Football is his priority plus he hasn't played a single game in months!
- The Euros is SOOO much better and more exciting than Copa America! If don't agree fight me lol
2024-07-01T01:28:50+02:00
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One thing about casually dating which is what I am doing right now. Only because I feel like I am getting older and I want a kid but I know it will take me a long time because I am not really interested in any man!
One thing I learn you gotta learn not to care! I don’t care about any man who’s not my boyfriend. If you don’t try to make me your girlfriend why should I care about you? You’re just a number on my phone and maybe it’s not saved. I don’t care about you because you could care less about me. You gotta stay busy! Have some hobbies hang out with your friends
Go to the gym! Go to brunch! Go watch movies! Make new friends! Travel ! Learn a new language! Make money! Get closer to God! Love yourself!
Baby there is a lot of things you can do before you let a man in your life. I don’t know if it’s because I’m a sigma woman but a man have never been a priority for me. I love to have fun don’t get me wrong! A guy literally told me you act like a man! You really don’t care lol
2024-06-30T19:31:13+02:00
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One of the reasons why I hate summer is because my hair does not thrive in that hot and Humid weather. Don’t get me wrong my hair still looks good and I still love it but I feel like the humidity shrinks my hair too much! I simply won’t wear braids or wigs in the summer because it is way too hot. Sure I could wear a short wig or short braids but I don’t want to do that anymore.
I want to love myself for who I am, I don’t want to add any fake hair on my head anymore even if I struggle with how I want to style my hair in the summer I still won’t hide it under fake hair. I don’t detangle my hair more than 2 times a week, I only do it like once a week on my wash day which is on Sundays. I usually have my hair in mini twist half of the time and I love it :)
As I said before synthetic hair does not agree with me because my scalp itch a lot when I wear braids and I can’t leave it longer than 3 weeks. For me to spend 100 of dollars to only unbraid my hair in less than a month is wicked! I feel like the more I wear fake hair the more I hate the sight of my hair and I actually love myself and all of my flaws.
I am more confident, more appreciative of my quirks and weirdness :) I think I am a very unique individual. At first I may be quiet but I am only observing you… later on you will see the beast ;)