/image%2F0653521%2F20241210%2Fob_84fa33_img-4152.JPG)
I was a cat now i’m a lion.
(LOL)
2019-09-18T14:48:08+02:00
Suivez-moi
Newsletter
Abonnez-vous pour être averti des nouveaux articles publiés.
2019-09-18T07:07:03+02:00
10 important things you need to know before you date someone.
It's the middle of the night actually it is almost 1 am but I was up doing my homework. I need to do something I love before I go to sleep. Those things that I am about to share with you is what I use myself based on what I've read in books, heard from tapes and from my mom. Let's get right into it...
- You need to know about their upbringing meaning you need to know their family if you could meet a sister or a cousin. The parents would be great but if you just started talking to that person and you're trying to see if it could work then meeting their parents might be too official. You can ask about the parents try to hear stories about how they got together and how they are as parents. It will be important that you don't skip this first step.
- See if you guys have anything in common. Not just music or movies...Do you guys have the same personality (it doesn't have to be the exact same) reason why I say this is because if you are a private person and you meet someone who likes to show off and post everything on social media then it may not work and it is doom to fail right in the beginning.
- get to know them not only what their favorite color is or what kind of food they like (those are important too) but try to get in a little deeper like do they have anger issues, depression, anxiety, trust issues, attachment issues, jealous, possessive... have they been in any kind of tragic incident? any childhood trauma (although it may take a while to figure this out but keep digging) getting to know them will let you know if they are the right one for you. DO NOT IGNORE THE RED FLAGS.
- take them out in public see how they are... are they shy? anti social? can they hold a conversation with other people? are they flirty with other people or stare at other people for too long? are they judgmental of others? you won't find out about this when you hang out at each other houses.
- You need to find out what makes them mad, not so you can piss them off but so you know not to do it to them. You need to also find out how they get when they are mad like do they have a short temper? do they get mad for any stupid little things?
- You need to figure out what they like and what makes them happy. You need to know what gets them excited is it food, movies, flowers, a massage, an unexpected gift...
- You need to know about their background, where they went to school or the neighborhood they were raised in because trust me all this will become important later on because you only learn certain behaviors in the environment that you grew up in.
- you need to know some of their friends because the friends are a reflection of the person you're dealing with. There's a saying that goes "show me your friend and I will tell you what you are." You are who you hang out with.
- You need to know something about their ex because trust me you will learn a lot about them. Based on the story you can find out how the person is, does he or she hold grudges? revengeful? blame the ex all the time and never admits fault? You will find out if they are defensive, selfish, immature or if they are naive...
- Finally this is big do they have someone they still have feelings for, it can be hard to win their love if they are already in love with someone else... just let it go maybe it was not meant to be and your person is still waiting for you.
2019-09-14T20:24:15+02:00
why you should
To be honest this is going to be a list of things that I need to do too. This is for you and I.
- why you should always stand up for yourself is because if you don't who will? so you always going to wait for someone to protect you when someone else is trying to attack you. Standing up for yourself doesn't mean throwing the first punch it simply means that you don't accept what bad things others say about you and you make them feel like they ain't got nothing on you.
- Why you should love yourself: You should love yourself because if you don't then you won't be able to love someone else or even know how to love someone. You should start by loving yourself. Remember everything starts with you. You let someone make you feel the way that you feel. You let someone walk all over you. You let someone love you the wrong way, but you don't have to anymore because once you start loving yourself then you will know the right way you need to be loved and taking care of.
- why you should let someone or anything toxic to your life go: is because your well being is worth way more than the trouble and the heartache that they bring. You deserve everything good (it took me a while to realize this) letting anything bad for your life go is a demonstration that you deserve good things. When you let someone, toxic things or any toxic behaviors go you're training yourself to accept and attract good things. You only get what you allow yourself to have and you can have way more than you have now if only you let yourself have it.
- why you should always smile: smiling is a way to show happiness even if sometimes it can be fake but no one would know unless you're really bad at fake smiling. I love genuine smiles and I think others can see when your smile is fake simply because it is not coming from your heart but rather it is only coming from your face.
- why you should do what is right for you is because at the end of the day you will be the only one wishing you took a different path everyone else will live their lives so why shouldn't you live your life the way you see it as? You should figure out what is that you want and it may not match what your parents, family or friends want but if it makes you happy and it matches with your spiritual plans then go ahead...
- why you should have a relationship with God is because for me personally I think God has the answer to everything and having a strong relationship with him will make you a better person and it will make your life so much easier. For example when we have problems we tend to think and worry about it but if we pray and leave in God hands we can actually feel better. We will feel lighter and life will get easier simply because we let God in control. (just wanted to leave that here) I am not ashamed to speak about God because he has done so much for me and I will forever be grateful.
- why you should look for the nice guy, yeah I heard they say nice guys are boring... but do you know that he will genuinely care about you? instead of you chasing after that guy that don't even want you focus on you and stuff that you need to improve on (that's another topic). I heard they say there's something interesting about a mean or bad guy but really is there? he's just cancelling your call, not returning your text, not showing up and always go ghost is that what you want? I am still trying to figure what I want but I want a guy who's reliable and love me the right way... we deserve good things. We should always have a bright smile on our face, we deserve good things you and I.
2019-09-14T05:22:53+02:00
Thank you, next.
Now when your name come up I am able to act like it's just a name like the others.
when I see a car that looks like yours I can see it as just a random car.
when I see a picture of you I can see your face without my heart jumping out of my chest.
when I hear your voice I am able to hear what your saying without having to concentrate.
I can see that I am over you and there's nothing left to say....
All I can say is "have a good life".
2019-09-04T23:02:21+02:00
success
what is your idea of success?
I want you to take some time to think about your answer, it's not for me to know it's for you to find out. Someone ask me that question and I was supposed to answer right away and I did. It was a few years back and looking back at what I said I realize that the definition of success for me has changed. I see things differently now and what I wanted back then is not what I want today, some things changed. All of us will encounter some changes that will make us see our lives, the people around us and things differently.
To me true success has nothing to do with money or fame but it has to do with how happy and content you are with yourself. If you have a lot of money and fame but hate yourself at the same time would you still say that you succeeded in life? I don't think so which is why celebrities killed themselves sometimes despite all the money they have in the bank whereas someone who does not have much is truly happy with no thought of committing suicide.
Success to me has everything to do with being able to look at your life and be satisfied with where you at because that's where you wanted to be. I am not saying that you should settle in order to feel success you can still be growing and trying to find balance and be successful.
For me personally I don't associate success with a lot of money because someone can have a lot of money and can still not be successful. There are a lot of millionaires in jail simply because they didn't get their wealth the right way and they are not even home to enjoy the money. Now would you call that success?
Real success to me is
- being happy,
- loving who you are as a person,
- having the career of your dream and making money with it,
- having an amazing family.
- having supportive people by your side...
and the list goes on and on...
now what does success look like for you?
2019-09-03T05:05:20+02:00
hey there
I just want to rest. I just want to spend a whole day not doing anything. I feel like I have been way too busy lately and my body is not a machine, it needs rest. we all need to rest after working for a long period of time. Summer is practically over and to be honest I was getting tired of the heat (I know some people won't like that I said I was getting tired of the heat but I was) I want just to feel some fresh air on my face.
2019-08-28T04:53:16+02:00
hey there.
I just got a whole new computer so I will be here more often now believe it.
2019-08-11T06:22:34+02:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
Have you ever want something so bad that you try so hard to have it that you only end up forcing it to work and when you realize this you're already comfortable with how the situation is?
2019-08-09T20:51:55+02:00
REST
hey there,
Today I feel like not doing anything. Have you had those days? we all do. The funny thing is I was out already and I realize that I just wanted to be home I didn't want to deal with anything today. So I drove straight home like the devil was chasing me lol I am sure I was probably speeding just to come lay in my bed. I just wanted to wipe that makeup off and be me for the day not that I was someone else but you get the idea.
I feel like after we're so busy doing other stuff and we forget about how we're feeling which could be that we're tired, sad, need help...we may feel the urge to stay alone just so we can feel better after we get the help we need. I had a tough night I could not sleep. We all have those but make sure you take a nap the next day cuz boy you're going to feel really tired.
so far so good.
hope things are going well for you,
2019-08-04T05:25:50+02:00
Publié depuis Eklablog
I am looking at you but I don't see the person I used to know.
who is this stranger looking at me in my favorite human being?
My feelings haven't changed.
The silence between us weighs heavy.
I'm scared.
I can't stop myself from wishing we never got here.
If I could erase anything that made us got here I would do it.
I don't know what to say.
For two people who used to stay up all night talking now, I can barely think of 2 words to say in a minute.
we haven't talked today.
that never happened since we met.
I miss you.
I miss us.
I wish we could go back being the way we were.
You're so important to me and you have no idea.
Now I don't know what you're doing, who you with, what's happening.
I'm so scared of losing you.
who will I be without you?
what will I do without you?
what happened between us?
I am so scared.